Sniffies Has Advice On Becoming a Throuple

Sniffies Has Advice On Becoming a Throuple

We know that Sniffies has given Grindr a run for its money by becoming a close runner app in the popularity of gay hookup apps. We like the ease, the quickness, and the less chit-chat function of Sniffies. Grindr has become less unzip and more Match.com. Well, the kind team at Sniffies now wants to help you if you are thinking about getting into a throuple. On Sniffies growing blog HUSH, they have engaged therapist (and hottie) Benjamin Goldman to discuss the ins and outs of getting into a throuple and what you should ask before getting into such a unique relationship by asking three major questions before diving in. We wanted to report back and give our thoughts on the matter as well.

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There is no rule book when it comes to relationships. With growing popularity, or rather, openness about being poly, open, in a throuple, or whatever kind of relationship, there's a little bit of everything out there. Being a throuple isn't just having a threesome (we've been doing that since college!). It is having an actual dating/living/emotional relationship with more than one guy. Instead of one boyfriend or partner, you have two. Being in a throuple means being in love and building a romantic and emotional connection with two. You think dating is hard with one guy? Try two! Many throuples do share that expanding their relationship has brought more love into the household and though not without its challenges, has built a strong relationship trio. There are those that it just doesn't work for because the expectations are not realistic. Again, it is not just about having a total of six holes in the bedroom.

Goldman states that there are three questions that should be asked before jumping into a throuple.

1. What role will monogamy play?

Is your throuple going to open to adding more into the bedroom? Or letting you or your partners continue to hook up outside the household. Determining the openness of the intended throuple may examine what it is you or your partners are really trying to get out of this bonding. If it's all about sex, maybe you aren't looking for an emotional connection. Having this convo with your two boyfriends will set the foundation for what the sexual vs emotional connection is really going to be.

2. How do you deal with jealousy?

Are you the kind that gets jealous often? Can you imagine being the guy checking your boyfriend's phone and then having to keep track of two guys? Sometimes throuples because of scheduling or other life circumstances will set dates with just one of the other partners, or sometimes interests are more shared with two than the total three. Is one of your boyfriends having an amazing time making dinner in the kitchen with the other boyfriend while you are on the couch by yourself? Do your two boyfriends go running in the morning while you sleep in? Do they love watching Drag Race and you hate it? All of these little things can build into emotional jealousy and it's best to set rules or open conversation about how to deal with jealousy in your throuple.

3. How will you handle the haters?

There are people out there, even in our own community, who might not approve, support, or understand your throuple status. How will your friends react? What will your family say? What do you do when you are invited to bring your significant other to the holiday party?  How will you explain your relationship in passing or even to your besties? Are you going to be open on social media and make an announcement? All of these factors need to be discussed. Having a throuple relationship in the closet may not be the best choice.

Would you ever get into a throuple?

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