The Reality of Gay Threesomes

The Reality of Gay Threesomes

Hey, bitches! Let's just say it, threesomes are considered a big rite of gay passage. If you listen to the community gossip or chats around brunch, everyone who is everyone has had a threesome. Threesomes have even made mainstream in the recent successful film Challengers and in the rom-com gay movie Bros. Everyone assumes we are having threesomes left and right. Here's the thing, yes we are. LOL. JK. Threesomes may be happening less than you think. Some of the gays don't want to admit they haven't been in a threesome, some couples want to be in a threesome but are afraid to try, and some can't even handle one guy much less two. Having been in more than a handful of threesomes, I'd like to talk about the reality of it all and give some basic bitch advice.

No matter how hot the guys involved are, someone is always going to get left out. That's the reality. Even if you have the best meal with three perfectly cooked dishes, one will always be eaten up first, no matter how good it all is. Someone will always feel left out of the action. This could be for a variety of reasons and not necessarily due to looks or the size of your dick or the beauty of your booty. There are just different energies and different attractions, and it's impossible to pay attention to everyone equally. You can try your best to give everyone ample time, but you will get caught up in the action. If you feel that you are being left out, don't be afraid to be a sexy third wheel and encourage the action happening, offering a helping hand, or gently try to reenter the scene. Even if you aren't the center of a threesome's attention, there are plenty of things you can do while the action is happening. Massage your partners while the action is happening, use your mouth to explore what is not being used, etc. If you feel very uncomfortable, it is perfectly fine to excuse yourself. If you are hosting the threesome, make sure all your partners at least get the basics of a good session.

Keep it simple. Just because you've seen tons of hot threesome porn, that doesn't mean everyone can pull that activity off, and often times there is a director orchestrating the positions. For your first few times, don't try to overthink things or positions. Keep it simple, start with the simple actions. It can be overwhelming and if you try and get to every hole or pole at once, you can get a bit overwhelmed. Start with the basics - kissing, touching, oral - and take your time. You don't need to hit all the places in 20 minutes or less.

Talk about your positions before starting! Ever do a threesome with three bottoms? Unless you have a drawer full of toys, it can be very...boring. Communicate to your partners what you like and what you like to do. That kind of gives a road map of what they can expect of you. Also, don't assume all the bottoms can DP. That is very rare. Congrats if you get a power bottom that can. If some things don't feel right or just don't work, just drop it and move on.

Spontaneous sex can be fun. Spontaneous threesomes can be not so fun. Especially if you are in a relationship and opening it up to adding, you really need to set some ground rules. What are you willing to do, what is a big no? Some couples will be open to having threesomes but won't allow their partners to kiss their third. That is something that should be agreed upon before so you don't make anyone feel uncomfortable. I've been in a threesome where they had that no-kissing rule but when the boyfriend couldn't see would totally try kissing me. Awkward!

Be aware if you are venturing into the threesome realm with friends or neighbors, your dynamic will forever be changed. That's just the nature of it. So be prepared for that and determine if a failed threesome is worth adding a different set of vibes to the circle.

From my own experience and from what the real chat around town is, threesomes aren't as fun as they seem. That being said, my best threesome experiences have been with porn stars. They get it, they are used to filming scenes like that. So get yourself some porn stars if you want a good threesome. LOL.

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