Ask Chad Love and Dating: Kissing Karens, Dog Days, and Low Libido

Kissing Karens, Dog Days, and Low Libido: Love & Dating

Welcome, April! It’s almost here! I don’t know about you, but I am more than ready for Spring and Summer, short shorts and tank tops. Enough with the layered clothing! I haven’t been working out for nothing, the world needs to see my goods, lol! How have things been for you this week, Sexy Bitches? Regarding hookups…I had a Grindr hookup and he came over and all we did was watch a movie and fall asleep…that’s it! Is your Chad becoming a softie? Romance? What’s that? Ha ha ha!

Anywayyyy, keep those questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

My boyfriend is just a terrible kisser. There, I said it. He’s so bad I usually just move on to the action because it’s like drowning in a saliva pit with some random tongue looking for a home. I can’t stand it. Here’s the thing, I got drunk and made out with some random guy at the club. His kissing was amazing. Now I really don’t to kiss my boyfriend. What should I do?

Kissing Karen

Dear Kissing Karen,

Dump him. LOL. Honestly, for me, kissing is the key to everything else. If the kissing is bad, you don’t get the whole enchilada. I don’t care if it’s a stranger, a hookup, a boyfriend, or whatever, the kissing has to be on point. That being said, you are in danger, girl! If you are finding attraction and satisfaction in some rando at the club, then your relationship is on the rocks. If you care about your boyfriend, you are just going to have to tell him that there needs to be some kissing training. Make light of it, no need to make it a dramatic moment. Actually, have fun with it. Sit down with him and teach him the skills, show him how to do it, show him what you like to feel and how you like it done. Take it slow, be patient, and be nice about it. But no, girl…a boy who can’t kiss is not an option. LOL.

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Hey Chad,

My husband and I got a dog a couple of months ago. The first major purchase we made as a couple, other than the rent on our condo. He loves this dog. For some reason, I just haven’t attached to the dog the way he has. I feel like all of his attention is now on this pup, he even takes him everywhere we go. It’s annoying. The dog is always in his lap, by his side, in the bed, in the car, in my face, everywhere. I feel like I’m the odd man out now. What can I do?

Dog Dreary

Dear Dog Dreary,

Well, the fact that you didn’t call the dog by its name is a telling sign. You really haven’t attached to the poor little guy. The thing is, you guys got him, the dog is in your home, and you need to try and bond with the pup. Spend your own time with him, take him to the dog park, take him to the beach, cuddle with him, take some training classes together, but try and bond with him…he’s obviously not going anywhere and if your boo is attached, you need to try and fit it or get shut out in the cold. In a way, you need to start dating your dog. But, I also don’t think a dog needs to travel everywhere you go. I love a cute dog, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t need the dog at the dinner table at a restaurant, I don’t need the pup on my lap at the club, I don’t need a dog on my shoulder while getting a colonoscopy. No matter how cute, sometimes a dog needs to be a dog and it’s ok to leave them at home for a bit. It’s ok to put them in a little doggie bed while you have relations with your boo. Creating some boundaries is ok, but you really need to try and bond. Woof.

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Dear Chad,

I just don’t want to have sex. I don’t feel in the mood, like ever. I end the dates by kissing the guy goodnight and going on my way. I don’t even jerk off anymore. There is literally no urge. Is something wrong with me?

Low Libido

Dear Low Libido,

There’s a whole community out there that identifies as asexual. I’m not going to claim to be an expert since I need sex a few times a day, lol. But there is such a thing as not being in the mood or wanting sex. There are a few other things that can be at play, though. There may be an issue with your testosterone level. Depending on how old you are, that can definitely come into play and make you feel not in the mood. A lower testosterone level could also be playing with other issues in your physical health. So get that checked. Secondly, there could be underlying issues regarding sex. I don’t know your past or your relationship with sex prior to you not feeling in the mood, but maybe something else is going on. Maybe see a therapist? Again, there is no shame in identifying as asexual, but make sure it is that and nothing physical or mental. When you’re ready to get back in the saddle, give me a call. I’ll rehabilitate you! And, on behalf of all the guys you are dating, let them know what's up ahead of time so they don't get blue balls. But seriously, they could be thinking it is an issue with them.