Ask Chad: Chronically Online Woes, Aloof Boyfriends, And Black Outs

Hey butt sluts, how did we all like the lewks at the Met? They were sickening and I'm just glad they were mostly on theme. Anyways y'all asked me about some personal problems and like always I am here to save your holes and goals.

This week, your questions got me feeling all types of way. Keep 'em coming! As my Sniffies profile says, Nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

I feel like social media is taking over my life. I am constantly refreshing Twitter, TikTok, IG, and embarrassingly even Facebook. I am always seeing awful news stories, people getting canceled, and random drama, and I feel like I am addicted. Sometimes it's funny memes or positive things but mostly negative. I don't want to be out of the loop on what's going on in the world or even the gay world but I am feeling so overwhelmed, what should I do?

Sincerely,

ChronicallyOnline

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Hi ChronicallyOnline,

I have felt this exact way recently. Sometimes the news is such a drag and not the fun RuPaul kind! I believe you have to find a balance in the content you're consuming. So many people today are more addicted to social media than ever and have no life outside of meaningless posts. Don't be one of those people, girl! Go grab drinks with friends, take your dog to the park, hike a mountain, girl I don't know, get laid if you have to! Just do something besides doom-scrolling Twitter! If I catch myself getting too hooked on my phone, I even turn it off sometimes just to make myself do something other than look at cocks on Twitter. Good luck, you've got this babe!
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Chad I need your help, 

The other day I was douched and ready to fuck, lying in bed wearing some sexy underwear. My boyfriend came through the door and instead of seeing me trying to be sexy with a candlelight, music on, and my cheeks out, he decided to start bitching about the dishes not getting done. I was so hurt; how does one chore that didn't get done supersede his boyfriend throwing himself at him?!

Sincerely,

SadAF

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Oh, baby!

I am so sorry this happened to you. Listen, the best thing to do is to give him perspective on the situation. Sometimes people's anger consumes them in the moment and they're blind to other things. Maybe he didn't know how to confront you and made a mistake of not seeing what was actually happening in the situation? The best thing is to talk to him about how that made you feel, put him in his place, and realize that your feelings are valid! Do the dishes matter? Yes, very much so. A nasty home is unbecoming of you girl but he also needs to pick his battles and approach things differently. After blowing your back out would've been a better time to ask when you plan on doing them or if there was something that came up to prevent you from doing them in the first place! Like I said, just talk to him and see what you can do, best of luck babes!

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Hey girl,

I have a really hard time controlling my number of drinks when I go out. "Just two" almost always turns into six plus some shots and by the time I am in the Uber, I am absolutely wasted. The worst is when I wake up and people are telling me the things I said or did that I have no memory of! Sometimes it's funny and not a big deal, other times I am totally embarrassed and can't believe I acted like that. How do I control my number of drinks so this doesn't keep happening? Do I have a problem?

SOS,

TequilaSodie

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Listen, TequilaSodie, this might be one of my more challenging answers to write because it does sound like you have a drinking prob girl! That sloppy stuff ain't cute and you have to do better about cutting yourself off or slowing down in general. I've obvi been through a phase (or ten) like this, and it usually stems from being depressed or stressed out! Alcohol is here for us to have fun, not blackout. Your goal when you go out should be to have a good time, not get fucked up. So ask yourself before you even get in the Uber, am I in the right headspace to be drinking tonight? There's nothing wrong with staying sober and just getting a soda. Maybe even try going dry for a month to let your brain reset and your liver heal a bit before reintroducing the booze again. But be careful, continuing this behavior is only going to lead to bigger train wrecks and that's how you lose friends and get a reputation! So slow it down and get it together, you've got this!

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