Grindr Fails: Not Interested Say So, Don’t Ghost!

Let's open the Pandora’s box of the lack of communication skills in the gay community; and I, as a fellow gay myself, would like to know where the hell did all of this stem from and why can’t y’all open your mouths to say how you feel?! Now don’t get me wrong, there are times when I don’t answer someone’s message on yellow Facebook or other apps but 9/10 I usually tell the individual “Hey, not interested but thanks for” whatever it is, whether that is a sexual advance, a compliment, or just wanted to have a harmless conversation. I absolutely agree no one is entitled to your time and energy, however, you look more like an asshole than y’all think and then you go on social media and moan about how horrible the dating scene is for gays. 

For example, this person approached whoever this was in the most respectful way possible on this app and with manners! He opened up the conversation with “Hey, how are you” and sent the same message multiple times cause people be busy or forget. So why is it so hard to message back after the second time with, “Hey I’m not interested. Have a good one,” like why does everyone have to be rude and ignore messages, especially if it’s not disrespectful?! I've just never been one to ignore anyone who approaches me with kindness, but that is the Southern charm in me. Don't get it twisted, people can have ulterior motives, you just have to sort out the good from the bad. A situation like this specifically, or similar to this, can be approached a lot differently.

This one is a little wilder than the first screenshot example, LOL I can’t even lie but it is an endearing approach to opening up a conversation with someone. This is just another example of what could’ve just been a simple "Thank you, not interested" moment but now we are exposing guys as if they’re predatory or rude, just odd behavior. 

All in all, I'm trying to say we all can stop being assholes and thinking we are too good for some people and others we are not. This community has bigger fish to fry in terms of equality, visibility, and representation. Still, at the very least, on these god-forsaken dating apps, if you're approached with respect and kindness and you are not interested in that person in any shape or form, just say "not interested" and maybe we can end the ghosting epidemic we've been in for years.

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