The Art of Frottage: All About Gay Sex

The Art of Frottage: All About Gay Sex

Despite what gay porn might tell you, gay sex isn't just all about the hole fucking. Did you know that there's a growing faction of gay men who are foregoing anal or penetrative sex altogether? Some guys just don't like bottoming, and some guys just don't like topping, and some guys just don't like any anal sex at all. The stigma towards gay guys who don't want to do anal is diminishing. Grindr even added a position to its database. Users can now designate themselves as a side...or someone who loves to do everything but penetrative sex. Oral, rimming, masturbation, kissing, that's all stuff a side will do. There are also gay couples out there who are made up of two tops or two bottoms and don't want to have an open relationship. What are all these gay guys supposed to do in the bedroom when oral has lost its fun? Welcome to the world of frottage.

Frottage comes from the French word "to rub." When it comes to your dick, that is basically what frottage is. In the world of gay sex, frottage is when you rub your dick against something. In our youth, you may have engaged in frottage with your pillow or the side of the bed. You rub your genitals against something, just like jerking off without a hand, until you reach climax. Products like Fleshlight have mastered the art of turning frottage into a sex toy.

Taking frottage up a notch, frotting is frottage with two dicks. Dick to dick, face-to-face rubbing of the genitals is the art of frotting, a sex act that some gay couples swear is more intimate and sexy than anal sex. You can use your hands and take turns putting the two dicks together and rubbing, or you can grind against each other's penises in a variety of positions - sitting down, lying down, in the shower, standing, or even in a 69 position. Align the two dicks together and start rubbing! You can use your hands or use each other's dick heads to rub against the shaft, balls, and head of the other. If you are modest or in a place you can't totally take your clothes off, you can even dry hump and do this fully clothed. The art of frotting is that you can do this with lube to really make it a session, or do it dry (you might want to add a little spit); there is a unique difference in doing it dry or wet. If you or your partner is uncut, you can even turn frottage into docking. (That's a whole other sex act.)

The art of frottage, leading to frotting, has become more and more popular in the gay sex world. Many couples report that it has saved a relationship when anal sex is off the table. This could also be seen as a safer sex option, as there is no penetrative sex. And sometimes, it can just be an easy alternative if your ass isn't ready to be fucked.

There is an intimacy and sensual nature in frotting that can be a bit more intense than just turning someone over and fucking them. Frotting can even get to a tantric level, where you can edge each other to a huge climax.

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