Get These Red Flag Gays Out of Your Love Life! Chad Speaks!

Get These Red Flag Gays Out of Your Love Life! Chad Speaks!

Hello, Sexies!

As you know, I am a self-proclaimed and proud slut. There's nothing wrong with playing the field. If you're single, mingle! Being a single guy in the world of gay dating gives me an outside perspective. I can't tell you how many Sunday Funday brunches I spend listening to all of my gay dating friends crying over their mimosas about their latest breakup. As I sip my vodka-orange, I smirk to myself, called it! I can see your dating red flags a million miles away, so I wanted to take this moment, especially before we get into the holiday season, to tell you to get away from these red flag gays. Even if the sex is great, RUN!

The Speed Racer

Oy, this type of gay. The speed racer guy will fall in love with you instantly, and cancel their life to be with you. They will text a million times a day, they will want to sleep over every night right off the bat, they will say "I love you" way before it's time, and they will love bomb you. While you may initially feel flattered and succumb to those early butterfly feelings, run, don't walk. You aren't feeling real love; you just like that feeling. All of us gays have some fear of being alone. This stems from us being in the closet and feeling isolated. But these speed racer guys aren't offering real love, which takes time to build, and is worth the wait. These speed racer guys will also explode into your life and blow up your regular routine. You'll probably find yourself cancelling on plans, calling out of work, spending too much money, etc, just to keep up with this guy. Also, as soon as that fake love enters the picture, it leaves. Speed racers will also explode into ridiculous fights, fake crying, a million breakups and get back togethers; they are just chaotic and not worth it in the long run. A speed racer relationship typically doesn't last more than six months, at the very most!

The Drama Dom

Beware the Drama Dom! Drama dom gays in a relationship tend to be on the abusive side - if not physically, then typically emotionally. These doms are not just controlling things in the bedroom, but they are constantly making power plays over your life. They will get angry and jealous about the smallest things just to take away your confidence. You will find yourself begging for forgiveness for things that aren't even your fault. You are like a little puppy trying to get whatever small attention they will throw your way. They will constantly play with your emotions to prove they are in control and to test your love. More and more, you will find yourself an insecure mess. The toxic part of this kind of relationship is that your friends will all see it and warn you. You will feel like you need to break up for your own sanity, and even when your friends lay down the facts and you see it yourself, you will still run back for more. Don't!

The Mess

We all love the superhero, bulging in their tight outfits, who saves the damsel in distress. News flash, unless you are from another planet, you are not a superhero...you can't save anyone. Some of us gays, especially in the dating world, gravitate to messy guys whose lives are a mess. We feel like we can save them, and in turn, earn their total adoration and love. They aren't dogs at an animal shelter. And it isn't your job to save anyone. The messy gay is always having some major drama, like losing their job, their car, or being always broke. They could be the drunk mess at the clubs every night. Whatever it is, you find some sense of power and usefulness when you try and help these guys out. Here's the hard fact: they will always be messes, and they will take you down with them and drain you of every last drop until you are used up and they move on. It might feel good to help someone with their problems, but they feed on that, and the favor is never returned. You will give and give and give, and they will play the grateful part as long as you are taking care of their problems. You can help someone help themselves, but you can't be anyone's superhero.

The Ghost

The ghost gay is not just for Halloween. The ghost gay will promise to call you in the morning, but won't, even though you see them active on social media. They will come in and out of your life without commitment and take what they need, and float away. These are your booty calls that you start to have feelings for, these are the gays who won't commit to boyfriend labels, these are the guys who don't introduce you to their circle of friends, these are the guys who will never remember your birthday. They will come in and give you a little attention just to keep you interested, but really offer no substance. Booooo!

Okay, gents, stay away from these gays! You have been warned!

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