Ask Chad Gay Sex & Dating: Unkinky, OnlyFans BF, & Uppity Besties

Ask Chad Gay Sex & Dating: Unkinky, OnlyFans BF, & Uppity Besties

Hellooooo, Sexies!

Halloween week is here, and I am ready for it. Usually, I’m out behind slutty in my myriad of ridiculous outfits, but this year, I have been swallowed up by all the scary stuff on TV! Have I become a hoarder/hermit? This last weekend, I slept in and watched Weapons, It: Welcome to Derry, and Rosemary’s Baby. Let’s just say Uber Eats was a guest at my home three times in one day. But, not to fear, this week is full of Halloween parties, and I’ll be back with some naughty stories.

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Dear Chad,

My boyfriend is so adorable because he always wants to do the right thing. When we were first dating, about 6 years ago, I literally had to tell him he was being too demonstrative and romantic. He was doing the absolute most in every way, and though it was cute, it was a little stifling. He’s called down over the years, but lately, he is trying to spice up our sex life and is going over and beyond to bring some kink and new elements into the bedroom.  At first, I didn’t mind a little kink and mixing things up. But now, it’s every time we hit the bedroom for sex, he brings out all these things and ideas he’s read about. It is literally like he is going through the chapters of a better sex guide. It’s a bit much, and I feel like he’s going through the motions just to follow rules he thinks he should follow. The truth is, I love the vanilla sex we have. Even though we’ve gone from about four times a week to two or three, I’m more than content. I don’t need him bringing all these things into the bedroom. I like the way we have sex. Now it seems like a chore trying out all these things. I don’t want to disappoint him, but I just want to get back to missionary sex and a glass of wine.

Non-Kink Kevin

Dear Non-Kink Kevin,

That is so damn adorable that he is trying so hard. He must really be in love and probably noticed the times per week you were having sex have gone down, and just wants to make you happy. Just open your mouth and tell him how much you appreciate the effort he is putting into the bedroom stuff, and that it is such a great gesture. Reassure him how much you find him sexy and how you love your sexy times together. Tell him you like things plain, the way you always have and that he doesn’t have to try so hard. If he is doing it because he likes the kinky stuff, then negotiate that you can incorporate one new thing per week. That’s a good compromise, and you might even enjoy some of the new elements when they aren’t thrust on you in a big pile of “must-dos.”

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Hey, Chad!

I have been doing OnlyFans for five years now. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years. Not only is OnlyFans a lucrative part of my life, but I also really enjoy it. I don’t do collabs, but I do some pretty graphic solo stuff, and I love connecting with my subscribers. I post some of my tamer, hot solo content on IG, and I’ve really grown my followers. Well, out of nowhere, my guy wants to start joining me on OnlyFans, and he’s mad that he isn’t part of my IG profile. I do post about him and tag him in my stories, but I keep my grid for my brand. My boyfriend is hot and sexy, so I think he’d do well on OnlyFans. But I just don’t think deep down it’s really his thing. Also, I want to keep it solo because I’ve built this brand, and I like my time to myself when I’m working on it. Am I a terrible boyfriend if I tell him no?

OnlyFans for One

Dear OnlyFans for One,

Your boo is probably getting a little jealous of the time you put into OnlyFans and the attention you are getting. He probably feels a little out of the loop. But that doesn’t mean he has the right to jump into your business. And yes, you’ve made your own empire on OnlyFans and IG and make money from it, so it is your business. You already established that before you guys started dating. You literally can just tell him no. You don’t have to hurt his feelings; just communicate it correctly. Tell him how sexy he is and that he’d do well on the platform, but that you think it would change the dynamic in your relationship. Tell him it's your little solitude and something just on your own. All strong relationships need a little individuality. As far as Instagram, maybe you guys can start a more personal IG that is separate from your brand. I have dated influencers before, and I know, for branding and sponsorship purposes, you have to curate your grid in a specific way. Just tell him the business side of things and how that would stilt it. If he is nervous about the attention, make it a point to give him special time each week, go over and above, reminding him how sexy you feel he is and how attracted you are. You might have to keep OnlyFans and social media time to certain days and times if you are currently doing it around the clock, while he is sitting in the corner waiting for his turn. Every business has its business hours.

________

Hello, Chad!

My bestie has a high-paying job, a really nice place to live, and can afford maid and interior design services at the touch of a button. He is always hosting our friend circle events. From game nights to formal dinner parties to pre-Thanksgiving dinners to engagement parties. The thing is, he does live a bit far from our friendship circle, and because his place is so nice, he can be a bit fussy. He hates coming to my house because I am messy – not filthy – just messy and busy. I don’t have the latest, matching furniture, and I don’t care. I don’t care if people feel comfortable enough to put their feet on the sofa or forget to use a coaster. My place is comfy and cozy, and my friend circle doesn’t mind hanging out at all here. But my bestie insists on hosting all our stuff, and sometimes game nights are not as fun because we are so busy worrying about his stuff and also paying a lot for Uber to get to him (we all like drinking). What can we do? We just want to be gay bros hanging out, not going to a tea party.

Uppity Bestie

Dear Uppity Bestie,

Girrrlll, while I enjoy the finer things in life, there’s nothing worse than an uppity gay. The thing about a friendship circle is that everyone takes turns being the host,  coming up with the activity ideas, and deciding where to eat brunch. In a friendship circle, there are so many different types of income and personalities, and you just go with the flow. I am sure your rich bestie just wants to provide you guys the best of the best to show how much he cares. That is nice and all, but yes, sometimes you just want to kick your shoes off and get comfy with your bros. (Yes, I did say bros.) Just be honest with your friend and say you are going to rough it and host your own game night, and invite him. And just do it. Clean up your house a bit, but don’t change your vibe or atmosphere. If he gets mad or doesn’t want to accept your invite, maybe he is just an uppity bitch and forgot what makes friends, friends, it’s not the money, it’s the fellowship. Also, if he is single, give him my number; my rent is due. LOL

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