Wildflowering in the World of Gay Dating

Wildflowering in the World of Gay Dating

We are hearing from y'all that you love our deep dives into the world of gay dating, so here we are with more fun terms to add to your library. We've covered Shrekking, Banksying, pebbling, and monkey-branching. There's a term for every dating style - for both the good and bad relationships. For this edition, we will be looking into the world of wildflowering.

Wildflowering, simply put, is the state of dating where you just let things happen as they happen, getting to know many people, and not planning on where the dating or relationship is going. It's an extremely relaxed way of dating. Instead of focusing on the other person, wildflowering is the state where you focus on your own journey and needs.

Wildflowering means you aren't rushing into any relationship or making a commitment. While it may seem like lazy dating in the beginning and a failure to commit to anything substantial, letting a relationship grow at its own pace without any pressure of limitations placed on its growth can actually lead to a substantial and well-rooted partnership in the long run. Things happen naturally and organically. Slow and steady wins the race kind of thing. Many relationships have issues because there are pressures guys put on each other, trying to fit the norm of what a dating relationship should look like or be. Moving in together too quickly, ignoring red flags, jumping into bed too quickly - all of these things can be prevented by wildflowering.

Wildflowering also means the focus is on you. You grow independently of any other person. This means you hold higher standards for yourself and in what you want in a partner. You are a confident and mentally healthy person in the dating world, and the focus is always on your needs first. This helps avoid toxic relationships that some of us gays put up with just to be with someone.

Wildflowering may be more prevalent in the gay dating world because our relationships, by nature, are established outside of the norms of the heterosexual world. We make up our own rules and don't pay attention to what society says it should look like. Queer people are typically interested in self-discovery, as is the focus in wildflowering, because we've had to explore our identity from the moment we realized our sexuality might be different from the rest of society.

In this dating mode, you also aren't tied down to dating just one person. You let the dates and relationships spring up around you, without choosing just one path. This will open up your dating options to many different types of guys. With more choices, you will avoid jumping into a relationship that just isn't the one for you.

You can take wildflowering too far, and it can be used as an excuse to jump from guy to guy. This isn't about hooking up with anyone you want; it's about exploring different relationship opportunities. Make sure you are truly wildflowering and not just being a slut, lol. Not that we slut shame here, but just know what the real nature of your dating habits are. Also, if you are in the dating trend for too long, you may become a selfish dater and forget to focus on your guy. Don't become a narcissist by overdoing your journey of self-love and discovery. If you date someone, you still have to honor their needs.

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