The Art of Pebbling In A Relationship

The Art of Pebbling In A Relationship

There are tons of ways to keep a relationship going strong. Sometimes, it's the little things. In this edition of Gay Love and Romance, we are going to dive into the art of pebbling. What the heck is pebbling? Yeah, we just heard of the term too. But we totally understand the concept. The term pebbling comes from the animal world, specifically the world of penguins. Males will collect and drop pebbles to their mates as a sign of affection and to help build a nest. In the dating world, pebbling refers to offering tokens of affection on a regular basis to show love. Awwwww.

Pebbling can involve many elements to show your affection; it isn't just giving tangible gifts. Funny or sexy texts, sending memes or viral videos, leaving love notes, doing chores, sending flowers, it encompasses anything that is done out of love with the intention of making your partner happy in a unique and unexpected way.

Pebbling can increase an emotional bond with your partner and increase communication. Pebbling isn't just done with anything; it is with the knowledge of what your partner likes or is into (favorite food, favorite movie, etc), and the communication back that your token of love was well received and thanked. It builds a level of communication different than everyday life. It's like having a private joke with someone, and the beauty is found in the little things in a relationship. Pebbling shouldn't just be a transfer of junk; it should have a point and come from a sincere place with a deep understanding of what your boo likes. It can even be naughty, if that's how you and your man communicate. A random dick pic sent in the middle of a busy day, or a delivery of a hot jockstrap, or a random blow job in the middle of the night, all sexy pebbles.

The art of pebbling relies on it being random acts and not over-calculated. It should be fun. It also shouldn't be a constant deluge of gifts/actions, which can be overwhelming and appear insincere. It's the difference between flirting and being a full-on creeper. Also, pebbling has been going on in queer dating since day one. Being subtle and on a smaller scale, pebbling was the only way that queer couples could communicate and show love without being found out, or outed. It is just a part of our queer culture. Now, it is not to be in hiding, but to be flirty and a little secretive with your man.

Adding this to your love life can add a new spark or keep that spark going. Try it and let us know how it worked out for you!

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