Ask Chad Sex & Dating: OnlyFans Outrage, Freeballers, Nosy Besties

August 5, 2025
ALEXANDER

Ask Chad Sex & Dating: OnlyFans Outrage, Freeballers, Nosy Besties

Hellooooo, Sexies! Happy August! Where the hell did the summer go? No joke, they are already putting out Halloween stuff at the stores. I don’t mind because I’m so emo…JK, just because I have no soul doesn’t mean I’m emo. LOL. August has been pretty slow so far when it comes to hookups. Is the heat making all the gays lazy? It’s supposed to make you horny! Hello, is this Grindr on?

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Dear Chad,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 years. We don’t feel the need to be married, but we have been living together for four years and are quite happy. We have never merged our finances, not for any reason other than it’s been working out fine, and we haven’t gotten around to it. We make about the same income-wise, and we just both pay our share of all of our expenses, and take turns treating each other to meals and concert tickets, and stuff like that. No complaints in that department. We have sex maybe three times a week, which works out for us. As far as porn goes, he watches porn, and I watch porn. We also follow some hot OnlyFans guys as well. Well, he was balancing his bank account and left the screen open. I wasn’t trying to snoop, I swear! But I happened to see tons, I mean TONS of charges from OnlyFans. He must have over 20 subscriptions. That is just insane. That is a good chunk of money each month. I asked him about it. He didn’t even get mad that I looked; he just brushed it off and said it was his business and that it’s no big deal. WTF? Am I overreacting? Is it a big deal?

OnlyFans Outrage

Dear OnlyFans Outrage,

Girl, calm your tits. You guys have separate finances, and it has been working, so why question it? If he couldn’t pay his part of the rent because of his OnlyFans memberships, then that’s another issue. You guys have been dating for so long, he’s bound to find some outside pleasure in OnlyFans studs. At least he’s not looking for pleasure outside of your bedroom with guys in person! You said you watch porn, so you are also looking at other guys. If your finances are separate and the house isn’t falling apart, what he spends his money on is really not your business. Are you more upset that he is spending a chunk of change, or are you more upset that he’s looking at guys on OnlyFans? You are probably spending a chunk of change on something that makes you happy, whether that’s one shoes, clothes, Uber Eats every day, what have you. If you spend some of your budget on what makes you happy and you are working hard for it, who cares?

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Hey Chad,

I am dating this guy who loves to watch me freeball. We actually met on Sniffies a year ago. He posted something like he wanted to do happy hour with a freeballer, so I put on my shortest shorts and went out and met him. We instantly connected. We started hanging out as friends, going to naughty parties together, then ended up hooking up, and then started dating. We’ve had a great time. But he still makes me freeball. He says it gives him such a thrill. But I’m tired of it and am starting to get uncomfortable, especially if we are meeting his friends out. They are looking at my bulge at brunch! I understand it gives him a thrill, but we are dating now, so can’t we do things in a more normal style?

Freeballed Out

Dear Freeballed Out,

I absolutely have such a thing for freeballers! I want to watch you in action, too! LOL. Here’s the thing: that’s obviously his fetish, and to find someone who will help you fulfill your fantasies is amazing. He’s lucky he found you! As with anything sexual, moderation is key. Too much of a good thing can be too much, and such a focus on one thing can be a bit damaging to the rest of the dating experience. It’s only been a year; chances are, he will start to focus on other things. But that doesn’t mean you are his puppet, especially if you are dating. Talk to him and make your freeballing outings special days, not an everyday occurrence. This will actually heighten his excitement as he can look forward to seeing you swinging that meat rather than just expecting it. But put your foot down, it’s your dick. What might sweeten the pot is if you and he go out shopping and pick out and try on slutty underwear to wear. His knowing that you are sporting some naughty underwear under your pants might turn him on; it can be your couple’s secret.

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Hey, Chad!

My bestie has been dating his boyfriend for only four months. They’ve already stopped having regular sex. My bestie tells me everything. They used to go at it like rabbits, but now it is just a couple of times a week, and my friend is going crazy. He says there is nothing else wrong in their dating relationship and that his boyfriend says he’s just tired from working so much. They end up cuddling most nights. What should he do?

Bestie Advice

Dear Bestie Advice,

Girl! Why isn’t he asking me and not you? Don’t be so nosy! You and your bestie may be super close, but this isn’t really your issue, and you shouldn’t be so involved. Maybe your bestie’s boyfriend is really just tired. Most of us are working around the clock right not just to survive. There’s a lot of tension in the queer community with what is going on economically, politically, and socially. That anxiety and exhaustion can take gays out of the mood. Your bestie just needs to have an honest chat with his boo. I do think four months isn’t a lot of time for the sex to already fizzle out, so there’s probably something else going on, and since the relationship is new, he’s probably not comfortable sharing what is really going on. Or maybe he is more asexual. Or maybe he has ED. There could be a lot going on. Maybe he’s nervous because his boyfriend has such a nosy bestie! LOL, kidding.

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