Gay Love & Romance: Keeping A Healthy Relationship

Gay Love & Romance: Keeping A Healthy Relationship

Whether you've been dating a guy for a couple of weeks, or you've been married to your man for a couple of years, or you've been in a relationship for over ten years, every relationship could use a little gay sprucing up with things to remember and implement into your love life, no matter how long you've been in it. Outside noise like open relationship trends and gay sex in porn and gay rom-coms on TV can give an unrealistic expectation on being in a couple. We are here to give some tips on how to keep a healthy relationship in the real world.

Fairy Tale Failure

Let's face it, there is no such thing as the perfect man or a fairy tale relationship. Let's say your guy is tall, muscled, and has a huge dick, that doesn't mean he's perfect, maybe he's bad with money, maybe he cheats, maybe he can't clean to save his life. The fact is, there is no one perfect person out there who will fit all your needs. You can't expect someone to check all your boxes because you, yourself, can't be the same for someone else. This doesn't mean settle...at all. Keep your expectations high and make sure to watch out for red flags. But don't expect someone to be the perfect man at all times. Also, don't expect someone to change their ways. You can't change anyone. There will always be ups and downs in any relationship; that is to be expected. Don't set unfair expectations on the love of your life.

Don't Sweat It

In any relationship, even family and friendship, you are going to have to let some things go. Like we said, there is no such thing as perfection, and sometimes, fighting over something simple is just not worth it. There will be a compromise in your gay romance, no matter how Prince Charming he is. If the little things that he does irritate you, just take a breath and let it go. Now, if he all of the sudden wants kids or wants to host orgies every night, that is a different thing. But the little stuff just doesn't matter in the bigger picture. If every little thing that he does annoys you, then you may be looking at something else that is the root of the issue. Leave the fighting and hard discussions for the truly important elements of being in a relationship, not the fact that he leaves his dirty socks on the floor. This also goes for getting over fights. Don't hold grudges; get past something and move on. Being petty and holding on to things isn't cute, and it doesn't make for a healthy relationship.

When You Communicate, Mean It

Sometimes we gays love to get into a heavy discussion just to be given the spotlight to say our part and have our voice heard. Communication is a two-way street. You need to listen as much as you need to talk. Open up sincerely and honestly, don't hold anything back. But also be open to hearing your partner voice their wants and needs as well. Communicating about challenges in a relationship isn't always easy, but it is something that needs to happen on the regular to keep things healthy.

Rules Change

People change, situations change, and your relationship may need to change. If you entered into a monogamous relationship and years later, he wants to (or you want to) explore and have an open relationship, then it might be time to change the rules. Do you want kids all of a sudden? Another rule challenge. This isn't to say that these changes will automatically happen, but certain elements in your love life may need to be updated from time to time according to the other person's needs and desires. Change can be scary, but effective change can allow a relationship to move forward with both parties happy.

The Honeymoon Stage

Don't let the honeymoon stage expire. Make sure you compliment your man often, make sure he knows how sexy he makes you feel, or how in love you are. Bring flowers home, send him sexy gifts or texts, take him out to a nice dinner, or surprise him with a weekend excursion. Don't let the romance stale, and don't let the spontaneity or the dating energy disappear just because you've been in this coupling for a while.

Sex, Sex, Sex

Even if you are dating Jacob Elordi, the sex is going to get stale. There are many ways to keep the spark alive. Try new sex positions, introduce sex toys, try edging, try expanded foreplay, have sex outside, mix it up! Don't be afraid to try new things. But if you start to feel the sex is waning, you are going to want to wrangle that in real fast.

You will have good days, you will have bad days. Just don't stop trying, and above all, don't stop communicating what you need and how you feel.

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