Ask Chad Gay Dating: Corporate Cock, Dumb Guys, & Picky Petes

Ask Chad Gay Dating: Corporate Cock, Dumb Guys, & Picky Petes

Hellooooo, Sexies! How is everyone’s Pride month going? Here in Los Angeles, we had Weho Pride one weekend, and LA Pride the next. Gurrrlll…my Grindr almost exploded! Nothing says Happy Pride like hooking up and doing your part for your fellow gay. LOL.

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Dear Chad,

I do sales and marketing for a gay company. I won’t say which one, cause y’all know it. Part of my job is meeting with our power partners and potential sponsors. Well, there is a marketing director at a major non-profit, and we’ve started to work on projects together. This last week, we had a meeting over drinks and, well, things progressed, and we ended up spending the night together. Then we spent Saturday together. Then we spent Sunday together. We had a business meeting with staff, and we pretended like nothing happened. Then he had to fly home…to his husband. WTF am I doing? He has been sending me naughty texts. There is no way this will turn into a dating scenario, and I’m scared this will affect my job. What should I do?

Corporate Cock

Dear Corporate Cock,

Ohhhh, office sex, so hot! But, gurlll…that is a whole heap of trouble! I have learned over and over that workplace flings might be super hot at the moment, but they very rarely end up with no damage. This is a bit different because he is not exactly a coworker, but it is in the same realm since you are doing business together. I have to say, spending three days together is a bit more than just a hookup. Things get a little messy when there’s that much time spent because feelings start to develop. Also, he has a husband? Girl, are you crazy? That is a whole other mess. Does his husband know? Do they have an open relationship? Besides the doing-business-together aspect, that is a whole issue on its own. You might have had a good time, but I would leave it at that and go running. You don’t want to jeopardize your job, you don’t want some crazy husband coming after you. I would just tell your weekend fling that you had a good time, but that was it. You can be friendly and playful, but call it off. You aren’t dating or anything, so it shouldn’t be an issue if you step away like a gentleman. Also, be careful with those naughty texts; you don’t want them sent to HR. Send me the naughty texts instead!

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Hey Chad,

I have been dating this guy for three months now. He is so hot. But he is dumb dumb dumb. At first, I thought it was just an act. There’s the stereotype that hot guys are dumb, and I just didn’t want to believe it. When I say he is hot, I mean he is HOT. The sex is amazing, but I am finding out every day that he is more than just a little naïve. He is getting on my nerves with his intelligence limitations. Even watching a movie is a test of my patience. He is constantly asking what is going on, saying stupid comments. He can’t hold his own when we get together with my friends, and they have all made fun of the fact that he has nothing to offer in terms of dinner conversation. He is inept in almost everything, even getting his cable situated, figuring out parking signs, and using a vacuum. Like, how does he survive in the real world? He has a job as a trainer, and he seems good at that, but I am beginning to see we have nothing in common, and he is starting to annoy me with how dumb he is. Am I being mean? Should I stay dating him because he is so hot and the sex is so good? He’s like a puppy who can’t remember where to pee.

Dating Dummy

Dear Dating Dummy,

Why, oh why are the crazy and dumb ones so good in bed? LOL. Yes, I don’t like to support negative gay stereotypes either, but I’ve been hard pressed to find a totally hot guy who can perform brain surgery. The simple answer for you is, just see if he’s okay being a fuck buddy rather than dating. He’s already bugging you, and it's only been three months. Not a good sign when thinking about a long-term relationship. It has only been three months, so a hard breakup shouldn’t be all that awful. Maybe put all your effort into goodbye sex. Hot! Looks and good sex can only get you so far in a relationship. You seem to know what you want, so go get someone who can excite you mentally and physically! Also, give your dumb ex my number.

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Hey, Chad!

I started dating again after being single for about three years. I’ve had flings here and there, but nothing substantial. I just didn’t feel ready for it. I feel content with my career, and I feel like I’m emotionally stable to get back into the swing of things. I’ve gone on dates through the dating apps, and I’ve been set up with some guys through my friends. I am sad to report that I am not really clicking with anyone. I am losing interest during the first date night dinner chats, I am not really attracted to anyone as of yet, and little things about these guys are just making me say no to another date. Am I being too picky? Have I been single too long to get back into the dating scene? Help!

Picky Peter

Dear Picky Peter,

There’s nothing wrong with being picky. And yes, being single can make you comfortable being on your own and enjoying your own company, so that someone has to be pretty amazing to break you out of your shell. That’s not a bad thing. You are confident enough that you don’t feel the need to run into a new dating relationship just to avoid being lonely. You know what you want, and you know that you haven’t met your needs yet. Just take your time with dating, but try to expand your comfort level. Maybe boring first date dinners aren’t for you, maybe hiking dates are. Try some different ways to go on a date, and also expand your circle of guys that you are seeing. Try something totally new and see how it goes. There’s also a fine line between being picky and wanting perfection. No one is perfect, and no one is going to check every one of your dating boxes. But the connection and attraction should at least be there. So slow and steady wins the race, keep on the dating route, and it will eventually click. One of my friends was in the same boat, and he actually started using a gay matchmaker, and they were able to find him someone who pretty much met all his wants. So, shake things up and try that!

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