Changes In A Gay Man’s Sex Life As You Get Older

Changes In A Gay Man's Sex Life As You Get Older

Getting older in the community doesn't mean you are getting your AARP card. Getting older in terms of outlook on love and sex, unfortunately, can start after the big 30. Some of us have been there. You are pounding some twink hottie you met at the nightclub in some dark room somewhere, and all of the sudden you stop and look around and think, "Meh, this isn't really doing it for me." The way we look at sex can definitely change as we mature. It's all part of our aging evolution process. Sure, there are some super horny 65 year olds running around, but for the most part, certain things can change with our relationship with sex after we finish our 20s. Here are some things that might happen in a gay man's sex life after a certain age.

Body Changes

No matter what precautions you take, or how healthy a life you lead, your body will go through changes as you mature. For bottoms, this might mean that you aren't showroom clean every time, even if you used to be able to get pounded even after a trip to Chipotle. Changes in digestion and metabolism can affect what is happening downstairs and sometimes you might have to spend a bit more time getting ready for date night. For tops, you might notice that your dick doesn't have the same stamina that it once had, and if you used to be able to have sex three times in a row, may be now you are only good for one round before you're done for the night. You might also have a hard time getting, well, hard every now and then. With age, some guys may cum faster or some guys might have issues cumming at all. But getting older will change the way you have sex. Hormone changes as you get older can also affect how often or to what extent you get horny. You may crave a night of just cuddling when before you wanted to be a cum dump for the neighborhood.

Feelings

Emotions can change as you get older as well. The more you go through in life, the more you reflect, you may be finding that you are craving an emotional connection rather than just a fuck buddy. You may start to get feelings for your hookups, or you may be feel sad and depressed after a one night stand. You might even cry at a dog food commercial. As you get older, you tend to feel all the feels more. Be prepared. It's also normal to have and express feelings. In our youth, we tended to shrug things like feelings off and focus on getting the dick.

Exploring 

Even if you don't have such a high libido like you did before, you might be surprised that your sexual tastes may be evolving. You may start to get bored with the same old style of having sex, and you might get into exploring different kinks and fetishes, or different experiences like group sex or sex parties. As you get older, you tend to shrug of social norms and peer pressure and you tend to dive into uncharted territory because you don't feel bogged down by self restriction. Use that confidence and explore away! Add to your sexcapades, add to your bedroom sex, try something new!

Sex with Substance 

As you mature, you may start to look at sex differently and start to focus on hookups and experiences that have some substance to them. Quick hookups, blowjobs at the gym, or one night stands might start to lose their attraction as you start to want a sex session that lasts longer and has some connection. You might even want to start waiting to have sex after you've been on a few dates with a guy. Gasp! You also might spend less time on the hookup apps. Some things just lose their flair as you start to look for more substantial relationships in your life.

Even though it seems like we tend to value youth in the gay community more, getting older does have its advantages. You have a newfound confidence with everything you have learned over your years, including all the sexcapades you've had, so enjoy your age and everything that comes along with it.

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