Ask Chad Gay Sex & Dating: Sordid Affairs, Pay Pals, & OnlyFans

Ask Chad Gay Sex & Dating: Sordid Affairs, Pay Pals, & OnlyFans

Hello, Sexies! Well, Spring is here, but it has been super overcast and a bit depressing. When is the sun going to come out so the boys can walk around in short shorts and tank tops? Sigh. The struggle is real. How is everyone’s dating game going so far? Is it just me, or is everyone around you breaking up? I have seen so many couples around me fighting and breaking up. Oh well, more man meat for the community!

Keep those dating, sex, and love questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

 I am having an affair. There I said it. I have been with my man for over 9 years, but lately we haven’t been having much sex. I still feel that I love him, but the sex drive towards him is not so strong. I have no intention of leaving him, but I have started to have sex with one of our new neighbors. It started off by chance, we saw each other on Grindr, but now we have sex about twice a week while my guy is gone. I feel bad and guilty, but I don’t want to stop. Am I a bad person? What should I do?

Sordid Affair

Dear Sordid Affair,

Gurrrlllll! The neighbor? You in danger, girl. LOL. Look, it isn’t a revelation that after a few years the bedroom antics in a relationship may slow down a bit. That’s just life. Even if you ate the best chocolate cake day after day, it would start to lose its appeal. But you are on a slippery slope. Having a one-night stand with a stranger is one thing, but having continued sex with someone close in your circle is another. Even though you see it as casual, having regular sex with someone else is bound to build a bond that you don’t have in your relationship. How would you feel if your boo was doing the same thing and not telling you? You need to do a deep dive into your relationship and see how you can spice things up and revitalize that sexual energy. Communicate openly with your man and see what’s going on. Maybe a sex therapist would help. You said you have no intention of leaving him, but keeping your sexual activity from him is disrespectful. If you want to have an open relationship at this point, you need to talk that over with your guy and see if that is an option. Trust me, I’m the biggest slut out there, but I am always honest. Cheating never leads to anything good. I’m not saying you have to tell him about fucking the neighbor, but I think you need to figure things out in our own bedroom before you start engaging in someone else’s. Wow, I sound like an adult. Also, what’s your neighbor's phone number?

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Hey Chad,

I have a new gay friend whom I really like. We get along so great, we have amazing nights out, and we talk and text a million times a day. Here’s the thing…I have a great paying job, making six figures a year, but he works retail. Lately, I have been picking up the bill on our nights out. Now, I feel that he just assumes that I will be paying and he doesn’t even attempt to pay for himself, much less get my tab. At first, I didn’t mind because I knew his financial situation and I really like hanging out with him. But now, I’m starting to be a bit resentful. I just don’t like his assumption. What do I do?

Pay Pal

Dear Pay Pal,

First of all, what is your credit score? I could use a sugar daddy. LOL. Seriously, though, you did set a precedent when first hanging out by picking up the bill. I get it, you want to be the nice guy. But you aren’t dating him, he isn’t your boyfriend, you have no obligation. Maybe pick outings that don’t require a lot of money, like beach days, going to the movies, or going on a hike. Other than that, when you go out to the bars, I would just loudly say, “Oh hey, I’ll get this first round.” That sets the expectations of the night. You can still treat him to a drink, but now he knows the rest of the night is on his own. Or, when the bill comes, look at him and say, “We can just split it.” There are subtle ways to let him know that you won’t be bankrolling the evening without making him feel bad. But yes, even though he is your new bestie, that doesn’t mean he is on your payroll.

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Dear Chad,

My hot bestie just joined OnlyFans. He’s already gathered a large following and is making bank with his content. He gave me a free subscription just so I could check it out. But now I find myself looking at his account daily and jerking off to him. He is really hot, has a huge dick and a great ass. I’ve always looked at him here and there, but now I am actively having sex thoughts about him, and I feel odd jerking off to him daily and then hanging out with him at night. He has no feelings like that towards me at all, I never fantasize that we would ever be together. What should I do?

Fan Fred

Dear Fan Fred,

Snap out of it! There are plenty of other sexy guys to look at and jerk off to. I would just cancel your subscription to him and focus on other things. It seems like it is an issue for you, and it is adding weird energy to your friendship, so knock it off. Hot guys are a dime a dozen, good friends are not. You aren't dating, so keeping up with your fascination with him can lead to awkward moments, and you might start to resent him for not having feelings for you. Watch some porn. And send me his free subscription.