Tops, You Want To Up Your Game? Do This!

Tops, You Want To Up Your Game? Do This!

Lord knows I have been around the block. Boyfriends, cruising, hookups, one-night stands, I've just about done it all. I wave my slut flag proudly. And yes, I always take precautions, that's the responsible thing to do. Coming out of winter, I am starting to feel my slut era coming back. I'm back on all the apps and have been making the rounds.

Am I crazy, or do we have a shortage of good tops? Those power tops that know how to move and know how to treat their bottom right, where are you all? The last handful of my bedroom antics have come with a top who doesn't quite know how to do it properly. What happened? Just because you have a big dick doesn't mean you don't have to put some effort into it. I guess some of you tops out there need a refresher course. Thankfully, I'm here to serve and instruct. Here are some things to keep in mind to up your power top game.

Go slow, bitches!

Don't just bend us over and start plowing away. You need to start slowly, and pay attention to the body reaction of your bottom. Slowly easing your way in will allow us to relax and open up fully. If your bottom is clenching and tense, you need to slow down and let him ease into it. A slow, steady, careful rhythm will allow your bottom to get used to your dick and movements. Caressing the back of your power bottom and gentle kisses always add a nice touch and show that you are respecting the fact that we are allowing you to enter us. Once your bottom has opened up and relaxed, you can up your rhythm and start thrusting harder. Just pay attention to how your bottom's body is reacting. Communication is key; ask him how it feels, ask him if he is ready for more.

Don't freak out!

The human body is the human body, and no matter the extent of cleaning out and precautions we take, stuff happens. Sometimes there will be a smidge of a mess, hey, you are literally in our anus. Don't shame us, don't freak out, don't run away, just communicate what is happening and let us take care of it. We are literally having to do some much more work to make this hookup happen, you can be patient and understanding.

Don't apologize!

We've all been taught by gay porn that size matters. While the idea of a big dick on a top is hot, having to take a hung guy can be a different story. That being said, the average cock size of men is smaller than everyone thinks. I don't know why, but the last few tops I have been with have apologized for being small. First of all, they weren't small, they were average. Second of all, it is such a mood killer to say sorry for the size of your member. If you are anxious about your size, up your passion and foreplay game. Guys who know how to fuck and treat a bottom well are better than guys with a huge dick who don't pay attention to their bottom or who don't know how to move.

Rimming

A good rim session can really open up your bottom and make him relax and get him horny. Rimming isn't just about sticking your tongue in a hole. Massage and kiss our ass cheeks, use your breath and blow on our hole, the feeling is really good. And just like topping, start rimming nice and slow. Just don't stick your tongue in and out thinking that is rimming. Move your tongue in different directions, hit different parts of our hole, use your lips, just mix it up so it offers a variety of sensations.

Positions!

Study up on some different sexual positions. So many of us think that there is only doggy style or missionary. Not so. There are so many different positions that you can try out, especially if you are worried about the size of your dick, there are positions that work better for smaller tops. Impress us with your moves and knowledge of different positions, it will add a thrill to the hookup.

Lube

I can't believe I even have to say this, but I have gone over to a top's house and he didn't have lube, or he had some old, crusty lube with dust on it. Huh? Contrary to popular opinion, we bottoms don't travel everywhere with lube in our pockets. If you are hosting, be ready to host. Lube is essential for a good sex session. Spend some money on the good stuff. And make sure you use a lot of it. FYI, spit as lube in porn is hot, in reality, is not.

Pamper Us

Above all, don't just treat us like a hole (unless your bottom is into that). We have to make the preparations, we have to deal with the initial pain, so treat us well. Spend some time on our bodies, spend some time making us feel good, and communicate with us. Check in to see how we are feeling and if we are enjoying it. Also, don't just throw us an old towel when you are done. Romance us a little, we just took your dick!

Ok, tops, go out there and do a better job. If you need to practice, call me! Wink, wink!

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