Hosting An Orgy: How To, the Queer Way

Hosting An Orgy: How To, the Queer Way

So, you want to host an orgy! Group sex can be fun, it can be hot, but it can also be a lot of work to host. It isn't just laying a sheet down and putting out some water bottles and a bowl of chips. LOL. If you don't want a disaster on your hands, there are some tried and true tips to follow to make sure that your event is a success and fun for everyone. Here are some of our suggestions from our many orgy experiences, ha!

Location

Some guys suggest renting a hotel room or renting an AirBnB for your orgy. We do not recommend that. Yes, we have had plenty of hotel hookups, but if they see a group, and more than likely that group will get loud, they may kick you out. It has happened plenty of times. Most AirBnBs have strict policies against hosting parties, and most places you rent will have a doorbell cam, so the owners will probably know that a bunch of horned up guys are coming over. This can get you banned from AirBnB permanently. Unless you have a massive master bedroom, you probably won't be fitting a ton of guys in your room comfortably. Being crammed together in awkward positions just to fit in a room or on a bed takes the fun out of the group action. The easiest hack is to move your furniture around in your living room to make a playing space. Cover up the floor with vinyl-backed sheets and put sheets over all the furniture so fluids and lube can fly free without worry. It also makes the clean-up much easier. You can buy those sex foam cushions and place them around the room for mobile use. Close the doors to rooms that you don't want people roaming in, and make sure your valuables are locked up and out of the way.

Libations

Many guys who host an orgy believe you need to serve booze. From our experience, this is not a good idea. First of all, not everyone handles their drinks well. Second of all, a bunch of boozy guys trying to coordinate body parts is awkward and not sexy. Also, booze can make some guys aggressive, and they might not pay attention to polite "no"s. Water bottles, energy drinks, and soda are the best way to go. Also, energy and granola bars on hand are always a good idea for those guys who are putting in a lot of effort. Some orgy hosts suggest having some food platters at the start of the event to break the ice and have the guys get to know each other and make it comfortable to start the fucking.

Supplies

A good orgy host should provide clean up towels, cleaning wipes, lube, and condoms. A really good host will have plastic bags and a Sharpie on hand so that guys can put their belongings and clothes in to keep them safe, clean, and easy to retrieve.

Atmosphere

Lower lighting is generally best for an orgy. Having a sexy playlist adds to the event and can also act as a cover for loud grunts if you have nosy neighbors. Some hosts suggest having scented candles in the background, smells can add to the sensuality, just make sure they aren't too close for someone to kick over by accident when dismounting off of a dick. If you have a big screen TV, playing porn during the event is also fun.

The Invite

Just know that you can invite ten guys, and maybe half of them will show up. Be mindful of getting the right amount of tops and bottoms and verses in the mix. Also, be mindful of the type of guys you are inviting; some guys are into older, some are not, some are into bears, and some are not. Diversity works for a Pride event, but maybe not so much at an orgy. Send out an invite with all the rules you want to set in place. Detail everything such as start time, door closing time, dress code, STD checks, absolute nos, ending time, etc. It is a good idea to have some hot anchor guys that you know for sure will show up and get the party started. As the host, your own orgy time might be a bit more limited because your focus is to make sure your guests are comfortable and well taken care of. Communication with your guests before and during is key to making it a fun orgy.

We've been to more than a few orgies in our time, they can be hit and miss. There are some things that are out of your control, such as the demeanor and chemistry of your guests or flakes who don't show up. Even with your best intentions, your first orgy might not be stellar. Have patience and try again. Or, you may be surprised that your first orgy is a hot and one of the hottest nights you will spend in your living room.

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