Get Ready, It’s Uncuffing Season: Gay Love & Dating

Get Ready, It's Uncuffing Season: Gay Love & Dating

The weather is starting to heat up, winter is slowly melting away. Many of us gays are back in the gym trying to get rid of those winter pounds of eggnog and mashed potatoes. And some of us gays are trying to get rid of that boyfriend we started dating during the first few days of winter. Uncuffing season has officially begun. As the gays look towards the hot days of summer, they are losing interest in their cuddle buddy, and this season marks when many break ups occur.

During cuffing season, guys start to feel all of those holiday feelings and know that cold days and warm fires are ahead. Many of us jump into relationships before winter gets started because we'd rather have a warm body to get through Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve with. We feel romantic feelings and jump into relationships, even if they aren't really for us. It's a seasonal band-aid. When it gets warm, that ice in our brain and hearts starts to melt, and we feel empowered to be single again and don't want to share a sweaty summer bed with just one person. The novelty, like that Christmas tree, has played its part and is sitting by the trash.

Spring and summer evoke feelings of renewal, so we want to shrug off dead weight and explore our own, single journey. We find new confidence in the warm days, and with everything bathed in sunlight, we see things differently. Lovehoney did a survey and 73% of those asked said they'd rather be single during the summer months. Ouch.

It is not just an emotional occurrence, there is some scientific fact behind uncuffing season. In colder, darker months, we produce more melatonin and less serotonin. Melatonin can make us feel sleepy and cuddly, but also depressed. Depression and anxiety can make us grab on to someone we think can take us out of it. When the sun comes back, our serotonin levels hike back up, and we are in better moods with more confidence and emotional stability. Heat can also lead to a higher sex drive, and that, coupled with people wearing less clothes, can lead to those horny feelings of wanting to hookup and be free.

So, if you are coming into summer from a short term relationship, be aware of the early signs of uncuffing. Do you feel less connected to your boo? Do you feel that they are pulling away? Are you logging on to the hookup apps more? Are you looking at other guys at the gym more? Is your partner starting to bug you over little things? All warning signs. Just be open and communicate your feelings.

Breaking up during uncuffing season isn't a bad thing. You had your fun time, and now it is time to move on. And if you are on the breakup side of a relationship, it really could be about him and not you. So get out those short shorts and get ready to mingle, you're single!

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