Ask Chad Gay Sex & Dating: Bad Boyfriends, Sex Clubs, and Lube
Hello, Sexies! Well, January seemed to take forever but February is speeding along! I can’t believe we are almost done with the month. Here in Los Angeles, the heat is turning up and we are in the late 70s weather-wise. Cue the short shorts and let the bulge-watching begin!
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Dear Chad,
My best friend’s boyfriend is just an asshole. There, I said it. My friend is super busy so when he does have time to hang out, it is always with his boyfriend. They have been dating for about six years, he’s not going anywhere. The last weekend, they invited me to their cabin. I thought it would be a nice getaway, but it was not. This guy kept talking and talking all about himself, and how great he is, and he also puts my bestie down in a seemingly joking way, but I hate it. I really can’t stand to be around him, and it is getting worse and worse. I know they aren’t going to break up, so what am I supposed to do?
Bad Boyfriend
Dear Bad Boyfriend,
I hate to say it, but this is a losing battle. I have been in this situation before, although it is usually me the friend can’t stand. LOL. They have been going out for six years? Yeah, it seems like your bestie enjoys the relationship. The nice thing is that they try and include you when they can, whether you like it or not. You have to focus on the fact that your bestie is into it and that he thinks this guy is the one for him. If you care about your bestie, you are going to want the best for him and for him to be happy. Try to focus on any positives with this guy. Otherwise, you are just going to make yourself miserable and start distancing yourself from your best friend. Who knows what the future will bring, but it sounds like you have to make a slight attitude adjustment.
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Hey Chad,
I love going to sex clubs. I have a super busy schedule and time for dates and arranging hookups is a luxury I just don’t have. Going to a sex club lets me get my rocks off and then I’m good for a while. I’m not in the mind space for dating and casual hookups fulfill my needs. The last few times I have been going, I have seen this guy who I know is married with kids. He ignores my glances and scurries away if we are in the same room, I know he knows I know it is him. He’s supposed to be straight and for sure he is cheating, I doubt his wife would give him the okay to go out and hookup with men. Should I say something?
Sex Club Sam
Dear Sex Club Sam,
Oh, lordy! I have seen so many people I shouldn’t at a sex club. From bosses to my mom’s church folk, to the neighbor. Here’s the thing, it just isn’t your business. Sex clubs are supposed to be safe spaces where men can explore and celebrate their sexuality. It really isn’t up to you to cast judgment or get involved. This guy will have to answer to his own conscience in his own way. Just keep to yourself, enjoy your time there, and let it go. P.S. What sex club do you go to? I’m not allowed at mine anymore for…um, certain reasons. LOL.
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Dear Chad,
My roommate is so goddamn cheap. Like he complains about every little expense that comes up in the house, the water bill, the cable, everything. He also doesn’t want to split money on household items like dishwashing soap, toilet paper, etc, so he gets his own supplies and tries to squeeze every last drop out of them. I wouldn’t be surprised if he reused the toilet paper. I know he uses my stuff when he runs out. He’s a nice enough guy so I just look the other way. What’s a few extra bucks? But last week took the cake. He must have run out of lube because when I was having some alone time jerking off, I reached into my nightstand to get my lube and it was gone. I knew it couldn’t have walked off by itself. I asked him about it, and he went to his room to get it to give it back to me. He told me he didn’t have any left and needed some. WHAT??? I didn’t know what to say but haven’t stopped thinking about it since. What the hell?
Lube Loss
Dear Lube Loss,
Ok, it isn’t funny, but it kind of is. I have never heard of anyone being that cheap. His behavior just isn’t acceptable as a roommate. I don’t even share lube with the guys I’m dating. LOL. Sounds like you need to have a house chat and set some rules. First of all, no one should be going into your room without your permission and they shouldn’t be taking something that is so intimate. It’s time for him to grow up. Just tell him how it is. If he doesn’t change his act you may need to find another roommate, or at least get a lock. Having your personal space invaded in such a cheap way is not cool. Be a power top and make some landlord demands!
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