Advice On Going To Your First Bathhouse

Advice On Going To Your First Bathhouse

There's been a social media post floating around asking what advice you would give a guy going to his first bathhouse. There was a lot of good advice given along with some sassy remarks so we thought we'd share some with our own thoughts. Some of us here have been to more than our fair share of bathhouses. They can be a lot of fun, but it isn't always guaranteed.

Don't take rejection personally.

We love this advice. Just because someone says no to you doesn't mean that you aren't attractive, you just aren't their type. You have your own type too, so don't get down on yourself if someone declines. There are guys for every guy out there. Just like some guys don't like onions on their burgers, it's a personal taste and not a reflection on you.

No is a complete and valid sentence.

If you are rejected, they don't owe a long story or an explanation. Also, if you don't want to mess around with someone a simple "no" suffices. It's a bathhouse, not a church social. If someone says no, take the acknowledgment and move on.

Don't bring a friend just to chat.

This one is funny. We do recommend you take a friend with you the first time you go to a bathhouse. With being unfamiliar with the environment and illicit proceedings, having a wingman can give you some comfort and ease some of the anxiety. That being said, this commenter mentioned that it was annoying when someone brings their friend and sits in the sauna and has a long and loud conversation, saying it was a mood killer. Yes, we are there to have sex, not listen to two chums chat it up. It's like when two guys at the gym just sit there and talk over your music. Don't do it!

Don't forget the sandals!

Yes, a million times yes. There's lots of lube and other fluids all over the place. You don't want to slip and you also don't want to step into anything you shouldn't. Sandals are the key to strutting your stuff all over the bathhouse.

Don't hog the sling!

LOL. All you cum dumps out there. The rule is, if no one comes to plug your hole after 15 minutes, it's time to relinquish it to someone else. Hey man, you done with that machine? Yeah, bro!

Don't take valuables.

100%. Leave your phone and wallet locked up safely in the car. Take a fanny pack or a sock that is made just for cruising to put your travel-sized lube and ID (and condom if you use them). Most bathhouses are dark and you can lose your stuff easily or it can get stolen.

Do things you would not normally do.

Be free! A bathhouse is a place to explore your sexuality in a safe space. There is no judgment and it is discreet and private. Are you just a missionary man? Try something new. Try group sex. Explore and feel free!

Don't act shocked if you know someone.

You are bound to run into someone you know. Hey, we are gay we like to have sex, get over it. You shouldn't make a huge acknowledgment out of it. A smile or a nod is all you have to do. This isn't a frat house. Also, if you see someone you know that shouldn't be there (married men, straight men), it isn't your place to out them. Just mind your business.

Sometimes you get action, and sometimes you don't.

Activity at a bathhouse can be hit or miss depending on what time or day you go. Sometimes there's a lot of activity with hot guys, sometimes it's some weird creepy guy in the corner staring at you. Just go to have fun and let it be what it is. You can always come back when it is busier.

Be nice to the old lizards. 

We love this one. Don't age or body shame anyone. Everyone has a right to be there and who knows how you will end up later in life. Be kind, that doesn't mean you have to engage. Let everyone have their fun. You aren't in charge.

Be prepared for anything.

Even if you don't usually bottom, still clean out. You never know what is going to happen and you should be clean and prepared for anything.

Be safe.

If you are sexually active, be safe and take precautions. Condoms, PrEP, and Doxy are all things that can protect you from STDs. After you go to a bathhouse, it is always wise to get yourself checked out.

What are some of your advice tips on going to a bathhouse?

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