The Art of Cuckolding

The Art of Cuckolding

As open relationships have become more and more popular in gay dating, so too has cuckolding. Basically put, cuckolding is watching your partner have sex with someone else while you watch, not participating. It is not a threesome, or even whoring our partner out as a cum dump, it is literally just watching them go at it. Like watching live porn starring your partner. There is a voyeur / exhibitionist element to it as well. Your partner gets to show off for you, and you get to admire how hot they are while having sex.

Cuckolding can be brought into the bedroom to spice things up. Hunting for someone with your partner to bring into the bedroom can be fun. You also have the opportunity to bring in different types of guys - different body types, different ages, etc. For some partners who always have to top or bottom in the relationship, watching them have sex with someone else and switch positions can change that up. The term “cuckold” has been around for ages and actually comes from cuckoo - when a bird would put their eggs in another bird's nest for them to raise. It was originally used to describe someone who has been cheated on by their partner. Cuckolding has been referred to as early as the 13th century.

Intense sessions of cuckolding can delve into the world of power play. The cuckold (the watcher) will often sit in a chair off to the side and remain silent. There are themes of humiliation play as the cuckold is made to watch their partner get pleasure from someone else. In essence, they are powerless and can only watch. The bull is the term given to the stranger, or non-partner, brought into the bedroom. They have power over the watcher and the "cheating" partner. Sometimes the intensity can be increased and the cuckold will be tied and gagged to a chair while they have to watch. Sometimes the power play can be reversed and the cuckold will instruct their partner how to have sex and what to do next, their partner is a plaything in their voyeur fantasy. Sometimes role play can take place and the bull can play the part of a repair man or delivery man, the partner walks in and finds them fucking.

The bull is not an intimate part of the fantasy. They are not included emotionally with both partners like what happens in a threesome. For some, this is an easier way of having an open relationship as the cuckold watches everything that is taking place, their partner is not playing outside of the home or engaging in sex where the other partner has no clue who it is with. It is a more controlled open relationship. For some, cuckolding has saved relationships. A study done by sex guru Dan Savage listed how cuckolding can be beneficial in a relationship. While it may be considered taboo by some, cuckolding has become popular in both straight and gay couples.

If you have decided to try cuckolding in your relationship, go slow and set parameters with your partner before. Have a safe word for if jealousy gets too much. Some couples won't allow their partner to kiss the bull. Some won't let their partners bottom for someone else. Those are just set rules that should be agreed upon before. Couples should also check in with each other after a cuckolding session to make sure everyone is feeling ok about it.

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