Do THIS On First Dates: Gay Love & Romance Advice

Do THIS On First Dates: Gay Love & Romance Advice

From what we are hearing from our advice questions and comments, many of you who deleted your hookup apps as part of your New Year's resolution are actually keeping to it! We aren't that strong, we've already reloaded all of ours. Sigh. In any case, with many of you meeting other guys the old-fashioned way and going on actual dates, some of y'all aren't getting first dates quite down just yet. We know, it's been a while since you had to get dressed and meet someone out and about rather than waiting ass up in your bedroom. No worries, we've put together some of our quick thoughts and what to do on first dates.

The Outfit

Just like that saying goes, dress for the job you want. Well, then we'd be a slutty nurse. Kidding. First impressions can mean a lot and how you dress says a lot about yourself and the respect you have for your date. Putting your outfit together should take some time and care. Don't show up with stained, wrinkled, or smelly clothes. We can't believe we have to say that but it has to be mentioned. Also, this isn't you hosting a quick pump and go at your house, even if you are hung and freeballing, showing up in grey sweats to dinner might not be the best choice. But, keep in mind, dress like yourself. Don't dress like a VIP at a high-end club if, on a normal basis, you dress in t-shirts and jeans. If t-shirts and jeans are your style, dress it up with a bomber jacket or fit overshirt. We also suggest you don't dress over the top just to show off your biceps or chiseled chest. We've gone on first dates where the guys have dressed up like a porn star ready to shoot. Yes, that's hot, but it doesn't fit the occasion. Just dress in a way that totally fits you, but add some flair or class to respect your date.

Don't Be Late

Our headquarters is in LA, so being late is totally in style. Well, this shouldn't fly for first dates. When you are late, even with excuses like traffic or getting your dick stuck in your zipper, it automatically puts off the other person. If you really want to impress your guy, show up early and be ready for him when he walks in. That's a gentleman! Being early shows that you put some care and anticipation into this meet-up.

Put the Godamn Phone Down!

Yes, we all know how in demand you are, we know you have a high-power job where you have to check emails a million times a minute, but don't do it on the date. Unless you have a loved one on life support, the world will be fine if you put your phone away for a first date. It is really impressive when we don't even see you look at your phone because you are so enamored with our presence. This small move can really go a long way.

Don't Be Fake

You always want to put your best foot forward on first dates, but don't be phony about it. Don't talk about your extensive trips to Europe if you can't afford Panda Express two days before payday. Don't have a big ego either. Just be yourself, your real self. So many times in the gay community, we try to impress the other gays with smoke and mirrors. We can see through a fake, being genuine will ensure a second date.

Listen Up

This isn't a job interview where you need to spout off all of your good qualities in the beginning. Make sure the conversation is give and take and don't be just waiting to regale your first date with your own funny stories or opinions on the world. Take time and actually listen to your date, let your date take. It should be a 50/50 conversation.

Keep It Upbeat

We have been on first dates where the other guy thinks it is a therapy session and in meaning to make a connection, tells us all their deep and dirty secrets, including messy breakups and exes. Um, not cute. The first date should be playful and light. Not too much into politics, not into difficult childhoods, and definitely no talk of exes. Make it fun, make it cute. All that other stuff can come later.

Cut It Short

Your date might be shouting encore, encore! But, take our advice, let the date be cute for a duration, and end the evening with a bang and leave them wanting a second date. Sometimes we are tempted to keep the date going and sometimes it goes on too long and ruins the evening. Or sometimes we take it to the club and ends up being a vodka-filled mess of a night. Also, and we can't believe we are saying this, can you wait for the second or third date to have sex? The anticipation is more, and the connection is deeper. Just try it.

No Games

We are all adults here. If you want to go out with the guy again, just tell him. If you want to text him the next day and thank him for a great time, just do it. In today's dating day and age, there are no time rules or waiting for the other person. We don't have time for that. But, also don't go overboard. A nice text that you had a good time and want to go out again is great, ten texts the next morning is not. Just be open and communicate how you want to move forward.

What are your tips for first dates?

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