Impact Play: Gay Kinks Explained

Impact Play: Gay Kinks Explained

Get out the whips and chains, we are deep diving into the kink world of impact play. Anyone with a knowledge of the BDSM world is familiar with impact play. It literally is the striking your partner, from light slaps and spanking to aggressive impact using whips, riding crops, chains, or paddles. Even getting kicked in the balls is a form of impact play. This type of BDSM contact is considered erotic and illicit pleasure for both the giver and the receiver. Just like in gay sex, there is the top (the one in power) and the bottom (the one receiving the domination).

The most important part of impact play (no matter how light), and with any type of BDSM, is setting rules, having equal consent, and detailed communication. Having a safe word when things get too rough is essential. The level of aggression in impact play is different for everyone, and also where on the body the impact is given. Some of us gays have our erogenous zones in different places. Someone might love having their balls slapped, but not their face, or vice versa. It is essential to map such things out beforehand. Also, while the impact play might seem like a good idea in fantasy, the intensity might be too much for some in actuality.

The pleasure in impact play is derived from the power play that takes place between the dom and sub. The dom is typically in total control of the action that takes place. Spanking is the most basic and usual form of impact play that can occur in the bedroom, even outside of the BDSM realm. A slap on the butt while topping is very commonplace during a hot bedroom session. More intense levels of impact play include flogging, whipping, and caning. Flogging is done with a leather-type of instrument with strips at the end. More intense flogging can be done with a flogger that has metal strips. Some subs like their impact play to leave marks on the body as a reminder of the dom/sub play that went on. Whipping is just what it sounds like, done with a whip. Intensity can range from light whipping strikes to more intense impact. Caning is done with a cane, usually made of wood.

In adding impact play to your bedroom play, it is important to start slow and with very light intensity. Feel it out, make sure both parties are comfortable, and you can increase the impact stage by stage. Again, having a safe word and choosing what body parts to focus on are also essential. Easier body parts to start with are the butt, thighs, and chest. Body parts to stay away from are the neck, back of the head, stomach, and kidneys.

Another aspect to consider when engaging in this type of BDSM activity is what happens after an impact play session. There should be some time given to focus on the emotional and physical after-effects from this kind of bedroom play. Check in with your partner, debrief, cuddle, kiss, and return the energy to the norm. Also, check the sub's body for any physical care that needs to take place. Lotion, massaging, or even band-aids can all be part of that.

This kind of kink can be fun, just be cautious and take it step by step. Some gay BDSM groups even offer classes to help you get into this form of kink. Let us know how it goes!

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