Is Watching Gay Porn Affecting Your Dating Life?
Gay porn is a big subject for us here at Fleshbot. We love it! We love the business side of it, we love getting to feature porn stars, we keep track of all the changing trends in the adult industry, and we keep you informed as to the latest laws regarding adult content. We do address the consumer aspect of it, though, and talk about gay porn in your life. We've talked about excessive masturbation (usually from watching porn) and how it can affect your mental and physical health. In this round of Gay Hot Topics, we are going to talk about the different sides of watching gay porn and how it may or may not be affecting your dating life!
We know that gay porn gives us a hyperreality of gay sex. The men are hot and muscled with huge cocks, taboo fantasies are brought to life, and sleeping with your stepbrother is not out of the question. It is not real. While there are many hot guys roaming around the neighborhood, porn tends to stay away from showcasing normal bodies and normal cocks and normal butts. But that's why we watch mainstream Hollywood movies, isn't it? To escape reality and life a bigger-than-life fantasy.
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Most of us can differentiate between the gay porn world and gay reality. While we may be jerking off in the morning to an 8-inch muscled top, we are actually dating a hairy guy with a spare tire, and we find that equally as sexy. Many of us have found out that when we actually get to be with a gay porn-type fantasy guy, the sex is disappointing. Normal guys are just better in bed! So while we may watch it for perfection, we welcome the normal in our bedroom and in our relationships. And the truth is, taking an 8-inch or more is not as fun as it looks like. Maybe once in a while, but in reality, we wouldn't be able to walk much.
The major factor in watching gay porn is moderation. As with anything, if you indulge in something so much you get desensitized. Imagine having an amazing steak or a big piece of decadent chocolate cake at every meal? It would lose its flair and everything would pale out. So keep your gay porn to a moderate amount. Once a day is great, five times a day might actually keep you from connecting and dating in the real world.
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Gay porn has become more diverse and inclusive over the years, but we know in the real world, you will be face-to-face with a variety of gay men at the clubs, at work, in the neighborhood, at the gym, and so our dating pool is actually more inclusive than the fantasy we see in porn. Also, the storylines in gay porn (if they have any) are just ridiculous. We know in the real world we actually have to flirt, have a conversation, and sometimes, go on a full date!
Watching gay porn can also be helpful when exploring kink fantasies that you might envision, but not actually want to carry out. Many guys watch extreme porn but wouldn't actually engage in being gangbanged in an alleyway. But porn lets us explore and enjoy those thoughts without guilt or shame.
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So, unless you are staying home surrounded by empty boxes of Kleenex and calling in sick to go to work, watch all the naked scenes you want...in moderation. Watching hot guys in a screen will never be as hot as having an eager hole waiting for you in the bedroom in real life.
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