Being A Bottom, The Ins & Outs

Being A Bottom, The Ins & Outs

Oh, the woes of a bottom! There's so much to consider with us power bottoms out there, fighting the good fight. Why are there so many bottom jokes and why has there been a stigma regarding taking the bottom bunk? Culturally, being the bottom is seen as being passive and having a lack of masculinity with a dash of weakness. Um, hello? Do you know the pain a bottom has to go through until they find that perfect dick? Do you know what we have to go through to prepare for date night? We have to do a lot of work in the bedroom, how is that being passive or weak? Sigh. Today in our new All About Gay Sex segment, we are going to chat about the ins and outs of being a gay bottom. Buckle up, buttercup.

 

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The pre-date process. Do tops really not understand the effort we have to make in order to prepare for date night? Or even just to be ready on a whim at any given time? We have to figure out the best method to clean ourselves, and sometimes that can be an arduous process between douching, showering, and taking that last dump. We have to time everything, we have to be aware of our bodies, and most of the time, we have to eat differently on the day of the hookup. What do tops have to do? Wash their dick? If we are lucky. Also, even with precautions being taken, there can always be accidents. These can be embarrassing, but what's so embarrassing? We can't control the insides of our bodies. Sure, we can prepare but accidents happen. Most tops like to act disgusted and start spreading the rumors that you are a dirty bottom. Pfft!

And tops, just so you know, we also have to deal with top disappointment. What happens when our top cancels a date after a day of preparation? What if our top is so small, they don't even hit our pleasure point? What if the top cums after three thrusts and we put in hours of work? What if they finish their business but don't finish us off? What if after they cum, they throw you a crusty rag and call you an Uber? Bottoms rarely get aftercare from a top.

 

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The upkeep can be a challenge. Some guys like a hairy ass, some guys don't. But, unless you have a Chewbacca fetish, you probably don't want your actual hole sprouting a jungle the Amazon would be jealous of. Also, having a lot of hair on your ass takes a lot of supervision to make sure bits of stuff don't get trapped, if you know what we mean. Bottoms have to go through a lot of manscaping to keep their butts and holes appealing to pound. Do you know how difficult it is to shave your ass and hole by yourself? Some of us even go get waxed. OUCH!

Tops get to walk away, freshly relieved, and go about their day. We, on the other hand, have to deal with sore assholes that can affect us the rest of the night, or, top-willing, the next day. Going to the bathroom, sitting down, and walking around are just experiences that get a bit harder after a night of taking dick. Also, medically speaking, we have to take care of sore butts and possible fissures or tears. Unless a top breaks their dick, they probably aren't having to cater to the intricacies of anal health.

 

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The competition is fierce. Just log on to Grindr, Sniffies, or Scruff and you'll see an army of bottoms. Bubble butts, flat butts, athletic butts, muscle butts, they are looking for tops. Just look at how many cum dump ads there are on Sniffies. Here's the thing, where are all of the tops? A good top with some length to actually hit our G spot seems few and far between. That means our butt has to stick out, we have to hunt, and we have to set our personality apart from all of the other power bottoms out there. The struggle is real.

 

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Why do we do all of this? Well, for starters, our G-spot is in our anus, so we do it for the pleasure. Prostate stimulation feels so good, no matter what side of the bunk you are in. Secondly, there is an attraction of having someone's man meat deep inside of you, it's a power swap with the bottom surrounding a shaft, and the top pounding away, it's a perfect coupling. If you go bareback, you know there is a certain pleasure in feeling a load shoot inside of you. There is no closer physical way you can be with a hot gay. So, sign us up for more! And don't worry, tops! We will cover you in the next edition!

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