Ask Chad Love & Dating: Backstabbing Besties, Hefty at Halloween, Office Sluts!

Ask Chad Love & Dating: Backstabbing Besties, Hefty at Halloween, Office Sluts!

Hello, Sexies! Hang on, we are almost at the end of the week. Is everyone getting their fill of pumpkin spice everything? Why has no one created something that makes cum taste like pumpkin spice? And yes, I am one of those guys who is a sucker for anything pumpkin related. Especially when I see a guy’s nice pumpkins rear view at the gym. LOL.

Keep those questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

I’ve been friends with my gay bestie for over 15 years. We’ve been through thick and thin, each other’s horrible dating lives, and each other’s successes, he even spoke at my mom’s funeral service, that’s how close we are. Each week, we get together at least three times and chat constantly via text and memes. We spend our holidays together because we don’t really have other family, we are each other’s family. He’s a good guy but does have a problem drinking. Two times out of three he blacks out and I have to send him home in an Uber. As we get older, it is just not cute. Here’s the thing, for the past month I’ve been hearing about him going around town telling people hurtful lies about me behind my back. This is coming from different sources who don’t know each other so I’m inclined that it is true. Also, when my best gets drunk, he gets mean and tends to fabricate. I approached him about it, and he denied everything and doesn’t want to talk about it. Not only are the lies hurtful, but they can affect my social profession if people think badly of me. These are pretty bad lies. I really don’t know what to do.

Backstabbed Bestie

Dear Backstabbed Bestie,

Oy, this is a rough one. It sounds like he’s going through something and lashing out against you when he’s drunk. We lash out at the ones we love because we figure they aren’t going anywhere. Sometimes we do this subconsciously. He must be going through something in his life that is making him reach for the bottle and whatever he is upset about in his own life, is looking at your life and jealous in some way and is tearing you down to make him feel better when under the sauce. He obviously needs help. But, regardless of how many years you have been besties, you have to take care of yourself as well. You need to put your foot down. Tell him you want him to get help regarding his drinking and, at the very least, take ownership of his actions, apologize to you, and rectify the situation. If he is unwilling to do that, you need to take some time away – no texting, no calls, no getting together, no memes, nothing. This will show him what life without you in it is like, it will also wake him up to the severity of the situation and hopefully will encourage him to move in the right direction. It hurts to cut someone off who is a big part of your life, but it also hurts to enable that person and sacrifice your mental health as well. Good luck!

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Hey Chad,

Halloween is coming and I dread this time of year. I am chunky, though my weight goes up and down, usually right after the summer, like right now, I have a spare tire and could lose a few pounds. Maybe more than a few pounds. What can I say? I love my pumpkin spice lattes! Well, the guy I have been dating for five years now has always been in great shape. He is a gym freak and loves showing off his muscles and such. I don’t mind it, and he says he doesn’t mind my weight going up and down because he loves me. But every year for Halloween, his costumes get skimpier and skimpier and we get invited to a ton of holiday parties and, after the second year, we stopped trying to do couples costumes because, with our weight difference, it just didn’t make sense. I also don’t want to focus on our weight differences like doing Laurel and Hardy or anything like that. I know people wonder why we are together and every Halloween I feel like a schmuck in my fattie Halloween costume. Last year I literally wore a muumuu and a turban and said I was a fortune teller. Awful. What can I do?

Hefty for Halloween

Dear Hefty for Halloween,

Girl, your stress is going to make your weight go up. If you really are embarrassed about your weight, do something about it, no one is stopping you. That being said, you should be confident in yourself no matter what size you are. You’ve been dating this guy for years now, he says he loves you at any weight, so there. Stop focusing on it. Also, stop being lazy about it. Just cause you’re bigger size doesn’t mean you can’t be inventive and put together a fabulous costume. Also, every costume site has bigger sizes so there’s no excuse not to glam it up. As far as your boyfriend goes, if he’s working out, of course he is going to want to show off. Who wouldn’t? Is your fear that he is going to hookup with someone else who flirts with him? Girl, you’ve been together for five years, if your weight or looks were an issue he’d already be gone. What he may have an issue with is your terrible confidence. So buck up, glam it up, and stop stressing!

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Dear Chad,

I’ve been dating my manager. Well, that’s not exactly true. I’ve been sleeping with my manager for a long time. We work in retail and sometimes it is just him and me at the store and at slow times we would give each other blow jobs and after we locked up for the day, we’d fuck. We also are friends and sometimes hang out together outside of work, but it is just physical. Well, his bestie, who also works with us, ratted us out and my manager got fired. HR talked to me and I denied ever having relations at the workspace or that we were dating. He is obviously upset, and he keeps calling me and texting me telling me what to tell HR and to help him get his job back. I can’t risk my job at all, he will be fine. Now that we aren’t working together, that allure is over and he is just annoying at this point. There’s nothing I can do – or should do for him, right?

Store Slut

Dear Store Slut,

Gurrrlll, I’ve always said…you want job security, sleep with the boss. That is terrible advice but hey, when you’re young and pretty, it usually works. Does that make us terrible gays? Maybe. But your manager literally made his bed and now has to lie in it. He is the one in a supervisor position, he is the one who knows the consequences. Should you be dragged down into it? What for? You said you weren’t dating. Why go down with the sinking ship just because you went down on him? That might sound callous but there is really no benefit in getting fired yourself or trying to get him rehired. That ship has sailed. He had his fun and now has to pay for it. If there is gay karma, you’ll get yours someday. LOL. Don’t sleep with the help!