Ask Chad Love and Dating: Gangbangs, Fighting BFs, & Squatters!

Ask Chad Love and Dating: Gangbangs, Deuling Boyfriends, & Dragged Out Squatters!

Hey Sexy Bitches! How was everyone’s 4^th? Mine was a blast! Went to all the gay BBQs and timed my outdoor dating hookup with the fireworks festivities. There were more than a few bangs happening at the same time if you catch my meaning. Now we enter that limbo time where there aren’t really any holidays to keep us jumping until Labor Day. What’s a gay to do? No excuse to go out and get crazy…unless we can call Sunday Funday an excuse. I’m ready to keep the summer party goinggggg. P.S. Have you checked out Kesha’s new song “Joyride?” It’s my new sex song. Try it next time!

Keep those questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

I started seeing someone and the first time we fucked he kept telling me how he wants to pimp me out to his friends and watch as they all spit roast me from end to end. Needless to say, that made my dick harder than Mount Rushmore and made me shoot like Old Faithful. Fast forward two months, and I have come to the realization that this is his dirty talk but in reality, he is quite the monogamous type. I’d be lying if I denied that half the reason I kept him around was for the epic gang bang he promised me while nuts deep in me. How do I transition him from just talking the talk to walking the gang-bang-my-holes walk? Was I catfished? I feel lied to…

Gangbang Lover

Dear Gangbang Lover,

Something is definitely in the air! Do you know how many questions I get about group/orgy/gangbang scenarios? You power bottoms are insatiable! I love it! I’ve been known to be the star of a group session or two…or more. It sounds like he was talking dirty while you guys were having sex. I can’t tell you the things I’ve said while in the throes of passion (or lust), I’ve even used the “L-word” even when I didn’t have any intention of seeing the guy again. Dirty talk in the bedroom elevates things and can make a big climax. I think that’s all he intended to do. If he is monogamous for sure he probably doesn’t want his group of besties to take a turn on your ass. Also, I don’t recommend bringing friends into the gangbang equation anyway, it just makes things awkward at brunch. Grindr gangbangs are fun, though! When starting any relationship while in the early dating phase, you should definitely be talking about having an open relationship and openness to other bedroom scenarios. Some gays are just not cut out to be monogamous and some gays are just not cut out to share their partners. If this is a must for you, better get that convo out of the way, maybe this isn’t the guy for you. If he was just as hot and bothered as you are to have this scenario done, then it would have happened. Again, I really don’t recommend doing it with his friends. Unless they have a good credit score. LOL.

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Hey Chad,

I have a great friend who I love hanging out with. We’ve been friends for almost ten years. Here’s the thing, he and his boyfriend of 7 years have been fighting for the last six months, like nonstop. Literally every time we go out now, they end up getting in a big fight and start shouting and someone storms off and the other stays there in tears. It doesn’t make for a fun night for me, it’s embarrassing in public, and also I just don’t like to see my friend in such a bad circumstance. The next day, they make up and it starts over like a vicious cycle. I really hate it. What can I do?

Dueling Boyfriends

Dear Deuling Boyfriends,

I have been that fighting boyfriend before, lol. Obviously, they are going through something if it has been regular for the last few months. Dating for years isn’t easy, there are always road bumps. The longest I’ve made it was dating for five years and that wasn’t without some, um, extracurricular activity.  But being the third person in this fighting duo isn’t fair to you, especially if it is in public and especially if it ruins every night you go out. They need to figure their shit out. I’m sure booze is involved and that probably doesn’t help the situation. You need to set the scene for the night out, tell them you’ll hang out but if any fighting starts, you’ll have to excuse yourself. Or, start saying that for now until they figure things out you’re available to hang out with your bestie on a one-on-one basis. Maybe they need some time apart, and you guys probably need some friendship time without outside drama. Or, tell them you just don’t want to go out with them until they sort it all out. Sounds like they could use some therapy or take time apart or even break up if this is a constant thing. Being in a relationship with constant fighting isn’t fun and isn’t healthy for anyone. How hot is is boyfriend? Send him my way.

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Dear Chad,

My husband and I are filing for divorce. We are still really good friends and because of finances, we are still living in our house. We have been broken up for a couple of years without any hard feelings and we still hang out and love each other as friends. There’s been no jealousy or drama. He moved in his new boyfriend he's been dating into our place, whom I get along with, and I moved to the guest room. We’ve been doing fine. I lost my job a couple of months ago and have been trying out the drag scene. I’ve been doing well, but just making a few hundred dollars a week, not what I used to. It’s become an issue lately and my ex is mad that I’m not always making my part of the mortgage and house bills. He supports my drag and wants me to succeed but sometimes he just gets fed up and bitches me out. I feel bad, but we’ve supported each other so much over the years, I supported us when he went to get his Master’s when we first got together, so I feel he should be more lenient. What say you?

Dragged Out Squatter

Dear Dragged Out Squatter,

Girl, you aren’t a newbie anymore. You need to do your part and go get a job. Since you are doing drag in the evenings (I’m assuming), you can do some cute little job during the day, you don’t need to be an executive. Do something fun to make money and do your part. I understand you did your part when he was in medical school, but you were together and it was years ago. You are older and wiser and need to pull your weight. Your goal needs to be to move out and stand on your own two feet. Otherwise, resentments will start and you guys won’t even be friends. Keep up with the drag, though! You just gotta WERK it, gurl! You got this. Will be tough and exhausting for a bit, but it will be worth it!