Chad’s Sex Tips & Trends: The Perfect Handjob

April 3, 2024
ALEXANDER

The Perfect Handjob

We all know the typical porn scene - starts with flirting, kissing, BJ, and then the ultimate act. But what about the handjobs? Handjobs are so underappreciated, yet they can get the job done, and you don't have to douche before. Seriously, why have we forgotten the art of the handie? First of all, a handjob can be done discretely in the car, at the movies, at church, on a Zoom call, on the train...literally everywhere! Also, if you just aren't in the mood to bottom or get lockjaw, a handjob pleases your partner and gives your holes a rest. It also can build biceps...especially if you are giving a double handjob. LOL. Some of you have forgotten the art of the simple five-fingered pump, so I thought I'd do a refresher. You're welcome.

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Communication is so important when starting a handjob. Does your partner like it fast with a firm grip, or lightly touched with a looser, slower pump? How do they like to jerk off? For a fun start, have them jerk off for you and show you what their usual routine is. There, you can see what you can add to or modify, but keep it pleasurable. The communication part is also important while you're doing it. How are they responding? Are they tense, are they rolling their eyes back, are they wincing, are they going to cum too fast, are they flaccid? You need to pay attention to all of this to make sure they are getting the maximum desire.

First things first. A big determination in how you proceed relies on whether they are cut or uncut. Pumping away furiously on someone who is uncut might be painful or not pleasurable if their foreskin is tight, or doesn't like to pull back right away. That being said, those who are uncut have a ton more sensation around the tip area and the foreskin. Lightly tugging or pulling back the foreskin can often illicit moans that would rival The Haunted Mansion. Those who are cut usually need more tension and rubbing on the tip of the penis, because that is not as sensitive as the rest of the package since it is exposed at all times.

Take your time and tell a story. Don't dive all in with all your might. Build it up, have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Start slowly and tease, build up to a crescendo when you feel them ready to blow, and do some pleasurable post-pumps after the climax. But if you put your all into it at the beginning, it won't have anywhere to go and your arm will cramp.

Edge of Glory. When you feel your partner start to get close, pull back and let them enjoy the feel of edging. The buildup is so much more intense, and you have all the power. See how long you can edge them and, guaranteed, their pleasure will be tenfold when the moment finally...comes. This also makes a difference between them just jerking off on their own, guys will pump and go by themselves, you are building a bonding session, even if it's with a stranger.

Wet it Up! If you are giving a handjob on a whim, you may not have all the tools necessary. Dry handjobs can be pleasurable, just be mindful of too much friction, you don't want to skin the dick alive. Wet handjobs are hot and mimic being inside an orifice. Use lube or spit, and vary the friction you put on the penis. The wetness will take care of a lot of the work and add sensation.

Modify where you put pressure, and mix it up. Try being firmer at the base and then looser towards the tip. Then, after a while, be looser at the base and firm at the top, try going halfway up to tease, then focus on just the tip, and work the penis like quadrants. Don't make it mechanical, but let's add some variety. That being said, don't add too much variety that it's just a mess of movements. Stick to three moves.

Don't forget the balls! We know how sensitive our balls are, so don't forget that when you are giving a handjob. No need to smash them, but tickling them or lightly rolling them with your other hand will really change it up and add a bunch of sensation. You'll feel the pull when a climax is near, which is super hot.

Don't forget the hole! Whether the guy you are giving a handjob to is a top or bottom, their pleasure spot is in their anus. Try using your other hand to massage the hole area, and see if they are open to a finger or two. This will definitely increase the pleasure and pressure to their climax. If they aren't into it, just leave it alone or they will tense up.

Use both hands! No one says you have to get muscle cramps. Share the load with your other hand and try using your hands either together or in succession to change it up. Try pumping the shaft base in one hand consistently while the other hand runs wild around the top of the shaft and tip.

Don't be a robot. Just because you are focusing the pleasure on your partner's dick doesn't mean you can't show that you are into it too. Nothing worse than a handjob giver who stays silent or doesn't engage. You can moan and talk sexy too, feel how good he feels in your hands. Get off on knowing that pleasure you are bringing and show it.

If he is staying flaccid or not quite getting there, try a handjob/blowjob combo. The mix of the two can be quite climatic, but make him return the favor.