Ask Chad Love and Dating: Bisexual Boyfriends, OnlyFans Addicts, & Closeted Hookups!

Bisexual Boyfriends, OnlyFans Addicts, & Closeted Hookups!

St. Patrick’s Day is upon us and I’m more than ready to fill my ginger fantasies. Bring on your Blarney Stones, I’m ready to party! I do love St. Patrick’s Day, gives you a reason to day drink ALL day. This year it falls on Sunday, so Sunday Funday AND St. Patty’s Day? Yes, please. My poor liver. I’m gonna wake up Monday morning with a bed full of leprechauns.

Anywayyyy, keep those questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

My partner identifies as bisexual. We’ve been together for a couple of years, and it still bothers me. I keep thinking he’s looking at girls, or thinking about fooling around with girls, or that he’s going to leave me for a girl. I’ve always identified as gay, strictly gay, so I don’t really get the whole concept. Can he really be in love with me fully if he’s also interested in women?

Strictly Dickly

Dear Strickly Dickly,

Gurlll, you need to slow your roll. LOL. Just cause you don’t understand bisexuality doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist for others. People can be bisexual and only be with one sex for the rest of their lives. Just like you can be into twinks but be married to a sugar daddy (don’t ask me how I know that). As humans, we can be attracted to and have feelings for a wide variety of people, including people from both genders. I personally don’t have physical feelings towards women, but I know some of the gays do. If you want my honest opinion, it sounds like you are more worried about him cheating or leaving you, and it doesn’t really have anything to do with him being bisexual. Sounds like you need some confidence in yourself and the relationship. He obviously wants to be with you, he chose you. Don’t fuck it up by worrying about something you can’t control.

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Hey Chad,

My boyfriend is on OnlyFans, it’s a big part of his income. He’s hot and has a big fan base. He only does solo stuff, no filming with any other guys. But lately, he’s been spending a lot of time chatting with his fans. Like a lot. There’s a lot of back and forth, sometimes he’s flirty. But now he seems consumed with messaging and he’s sending private photos to some of these fans. I can’t help but get jealous and I’m worried that he’s getting addicted to it. He really shouldn’t be talking to his fans so much, right?

Not His OnlyFan

Dear Not His OnlyFan,

What’s his screen name, do I follow him? Maybe he’s been chatting with me. LOL. OnlyFans is a slippery slope. I used to have an OnlyFans and I got really consumed by it but wasn’t really making the money to pay for my high bar bill so I stopped. Added hours back to my day. There’s an allure with getting attention on OnlyFans, especially when guys are drooling over you. There are two things happening here. Yes, of course, he has to chat with his fans to keep them subscribing so he can make that money. BUT, there should be a bit of a wall between him and his fans. Depending on how much he is pulling in from OnlyFans, he can even hire a management group that will respond to messages on his behalf. Sounds like he’s getting too intimate and too in it. The attention can become addicting for sure. I don’t know your situation with him, but maybe you aren’t giving him the attention he is craving and now he’s getting it elsewhere? You need to have a talk with him and for his own protection, he should limit the amount of time that is spent messaging with his fans. He can put that time into filming other content or paying attention to you. Also, if he is looking for attention out of the household, that’s a precursor to cheating.

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Dear Chad,

I’ve been seeing/fucking someone who used to make my life hell back in high school. We both have since moved to NYC, and, well what can I say, I may have gone through a little glow-up over the years and he doesn’t even recognize me. He’s still in the closet. Thing is, he seems to really like me at this point and my feelings for him are confusing, to say the least. I still have so much anger/rage/fear but also have grown more attached than I’d like to admit. Part of me wants to out him just to pay him back for the way he treated me. Just not sure exactly which feels I’m feeling the most. Anyway, that’s my predicament, any input is appreciated.

Glow-Up Gay

Dear Glow-Up Gay,

First of all, it isn’t our place to out anyone. That makes you a real asshole. Sure, he probably was an asshole in high school, weren’t we all? He obviously was dealing with his sexuality, and still dealing with it, so any revenge you plan is probably not worse than what he is already going through. You obviously care about him if you are starting to catch feelings and you are spending time with him. Act like a grown-up and just talk to him about your feelings and share how upset his actions made you growing up. Maybe you can talk through his issues and maybe by doing that, he will feel the confidence to come out on his own. Personally, I could never date someone still in the closet. Unless the closet was filled with Gucci. But outing him is not cool, and makes you a bad gay. BAD GAY!