Ask Chad Love and Dating: Office Sex, Slutty Besties, & Lace Underwear!

Hey, Sexies! Well, Valentine’s Day has come and gone and so did I! LOL. Single this year so I took the opportunity to fire up the hookup apps. Grindr and Sniffies to the rescue! Didn’t end up being alone at all. Had a singles party of my own, more certainly meant merrier! What did you end up doing?

Anywayyyy, keep those questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

I’ve had the same best friend for 15 years. We have the best friendship, he’s been there for me through good and bad times, and we always have a fun time when we hang out. The friendship is not going anywhere. Here’s the thing, the one thing that annoys the hell out of me. He ends up sleeping with all my other friends, or whomever I introduce him to. He’s a super slut. I don’t mind that he’s a slut but he ends up sleeping with people in my circle and then never calls them back or follows up and it makes things awkward. It’s not my business but it’s affecting my other friendships.

Bestie Trouble

Dear Bestie Trouble,

Is your best friend me? Ha! He sounds familiar. That’s a touchy situation because who he sleeps with isn’t really your business. BUT, he does owe it to you to not cause awkward issues by sleeping with your other friends and then ghosting them. Sounds like he needs to act like an adult and take accountability for his actions. I would just tell him how his actions are causing you issues. If he’s your bestie he’ll understand, there are plenty of other people for him to sleep with. Have him call me. LOL. What I would do in the future is when you introduce him to anyone new, jokingly tell them if they end up sleeping together to not expect a call back. Or, if you want to be a bit shady, invite some of his past hookups to where you guys are hanging out and watch your bestie spit out his cocktail as he sees his bedroom antics gather together. Bloop!

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Hey Chad,

My boyfriend has started wearing lace underwear. I bought him a pair of sheer ones that were sexy and playful and now he’s moved on to really feminine underwear. Like really feminine. I’m not into it all and now that’s all he will wear. I just don’t find it sexy and it ruins the mood when I unzip his pants and try to have sex. What can I do?

Panties In A Bunch

Dear Panties In A Bunch,

Oh boy…or should I say, gurrrrrllll? Have you asked him why he loves them so much? Maybe he likes the sensation of the fabric and how it rubs against his junk. Or do you think he is exploring his femme side? You really shouldn’t be shaming his femme likes. We, as gay men, have fought against feminine vs masculine presenting in society for how long? Gender-bending fashion is taking off, even the straight celebs are trying things out on the red carpet. If lace underwear makes your boyfriend feel good, then you should be happy with that. You fell in love with what’s under the undies. You can try and mix things up by buying him other kinds of sexy underwear, like leather or rubber. Maybe he’ll react to that kind of setup up too. But at least figure out what he’s responding to first.

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Dear Chad,

I give my boss blowjobs in the office. Have for years. That’s not the issue, ha! The issue is that I’ve made a really good friend at work and we’ve been hanging out a lot, even after hours. She’s become a really good friend. Well, the other night we went out for drinks and I got drunk and told her about it. I thought she’d laugh and that would be that. She was actually horrified and is now threatening to tell HR. And now things are weird between us. What can I do?

Office Oralist

Dear Office Oralist,

While I love boasting about my oral abilities, I would never tell a coworker I was blowing the boss. Girl, you are in trouble now! Oy, what a situation. First, I would let the boss know that she knows so that he won’t be surprised if HR were to call. Unfortunately, she has the power now. And office sex is usually frowned upon by HR. Trust me, I know, I got fired for fucking in the copier room after hours once. It was worth it though. See what your boss has to say, no doubt he’s going to be madder than hell at you. You could always tell your coworker that you were just kidding, or that you stopped. And while you’re at it, you might want to stop especially if all eyes are going to be on you. OR, declare your love for your boss and get married. LOL. Maybe happy hour with coworkers isn’t such a great idea, especially if you’re a blabbermouth. P.S. How hung is your boss? Is he hiring?