Ask Chad: Public Sex, Pounds on the Dancefloor, & Sex at Home

What's up, Bitches?!?!

Is it me or is everyone being weird on the apps lately? Like I know it's Halloweenie time, but the amount of ghosting is getting ridiculous. AND, people still posting out of date pics? Like, c’mon…not to mention the amount of guys who don’t have a face pic saying “No face pic, no chat.” Like, really? I’m getting so frustrated wasting time on these apps I’m about to go retro and just go ass up at Vaseline Alley.

Anywayyyy, keep those questions coming in, Sexies. It keeps me entertained to find out all of us bitches have the same crazy lives and sex trouble. As my Sniffies profile says, Nothing is off limits: [email protected].

Here are some of your queer queeries this week:

Dear Chad,

My friend has gained some weight but he keeps wearing his club clothes from before. His stomach is sticking out, he doesn’t seem to notice. And his buttons seem like they are doing to burst. And then he wonders why guys aren’t hitting on him like they used to. Should I say something?

Thanks,

XXL

Dear XXL,

LOL. I used to be very mean about this in my youth (yesterday). But ever since COVID, my own pants might have been stretched a bit. What I’ve learned, no one’s weight is your business (unless it’s your partner — that’s another column). If he’s dancing and doing his thing and doesn’t seem phased but his tight clothes, let him be. If he’s asking why people aren’t hitting on him like they used to, you can joke, “We aren’t as young as we used to be!” Or something like that. Now, if he asks you specifically how he looks then you can step in LIGHTLY with your opinion. Maybe your friend can’t afford a whole new wardrobe a size up. That’s why I date guys of all sizes…I can steal their clothes and be ready for whatever size I need.

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Dear Chad,

My boyfriend has been working at home since COVID and they’ve gone remote. Problem is, I’m a freelance writer and I work from home as well. He insists on putting his computer next to mine so we can work side by side. I never get a moment to myself, and he keeps interrupting me to chat. At first, it was cute but side by side in bed, side by side watching TV, side by side working…are we going to start taking $hits together? I NEED SPACE!

Thanks,

Side By Side

Dear Side By Side,

As my sex therapist once told me, too much of a good thing is too much. He told me this when I was jerking off about 10 times a day. Too much, apparently. Girl, everyone needs space…even if it’s from the love of a lifetime. You need to treat office time at home as office time. Tell him your workflow hasn’t been so great and suggest you set up separate work areas. Have breakfast together, then go to work. What makes working from home ideal is you can have lunchtime sex and not worry about cum on your tie when you go back to the office. Just set some ground rules. Adding space to a relationship can add spice cause then you’re happy to see the person at the end of the day. Usually.

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Hi Chad,

Is public sex worth it? I keep seeing ads on Sniffies for public restroom activity. Sounds hot, I’ve always wanted to try it.

Thanks,

Public Curiosity

Dear Public Curiosity,

Oh GURRRRL! You are talking to the right person. I used to LOVE public action. It was so hot to see the big dick peeing next you get hard and go into the stall and have a good suck or quick fuck. I used to love it so much that I’d go cruising at places I heard were popular for that kind of action. BUT, times have changed drastically. Public action, though hot, is extremely dangerous. I’ve heard through many people that cops are using Sniffies and such to advertise public action to lure guys in for indecent exposure. Any type of crime committed that way is a surefire way to get you labeled as a sex offender. Not worth it at all. Not to mention, there are weirdos out there that are on the attack against the gays and gay-bashing has not diminished in the slightest. It’s not worth the risk. My suggestion if you like action like that, go to a sex bookstore or arcade with video booths, or a sex club or sex spa. Plenty of public-type action in safer spaces. P.S. What are you packing? I know an alleyway. Actually, it’s my bedroom, but still.