Chad Talks: Bar Friends Vs. Real Friends

June 4, 2023
CHAD

Listen, friends are essential, I mean who else is gonna go to the club to take shots and be hot bitches? Certainly not your co-workers! That’s why I feel it’s SO important to have your club girlies and gays that you can go drink some tequila sodas with while stunting on those other basic bitches there. However, not all or even most of your bar friends are gonna come through in other areas of your life. Sometimes people are a perfect fit for the club but not a family function, work thing, or personal matter. It’s a good idea to keep boundaries not only with others but with yourself and who you can rely on. But how do you know the difference, Chad? Well, I’m gonna tell you stupid bitch, keep reading!

First, we need to lay out what a bar friend is, and that should be obvious. It’s someone who you can casually hang out with in WeHo on a Thursday night while you drink and hunt for dick. It’s that person you can text to come out and go dancing at The Abbey and they’re always down! Sometimes they’re great for conversation, and other times you don’t even get past small talk cause you’re both so busy saying hi to everyone, dancing, and ordering more shots. But regardless, a bar friend is a party friend. An acquaintanceship if you will!

A real friend… henny. They will bring you soup when you’re sick. They will come pick you up and take you to dinner when you’re having a tough week. They will check in on you even when there’s no party happening. You want to stay in and watch Netflix and drink cheap wine? They’re in. You want to go shopping and talk $h#t? They’re down. A real friend is a real friend, and we can’t keep calling people who we casually see at the club real friends due to the fact that it devalues what a real friendship is and can be! I am not calling some hot, dumb bitch from the bar my bestie when all she knows is I’m a Leo and I like Don Julio.

Is this article meant to make you dislike your club girlies? Absolutely not, don’t twist my words. I am just showing you it’s worth discerning who is a real friend and who is not, so you don’t impose impossible expectations on the bar friends and let yourself down. Or the contrary, have no real friends because you think superficial relationships are the only way to go. All I am saying is hold the real ones close, and love the rest too. Just know that who will have your back, and who will get the next round may be different!

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