Ask Chad: Popping The Question, Boring Sex, and Circuit Party Survival

Hey greedy bottoms and dom tops, hope you're all ready for Memorial Day weekend! I can't wait to hit every pool and circuit party I can find my way to.

This week, your questions got me feeling all types of way. Keep 'em coming! As my Sniffies profile says, Nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

When is the right time to ask a guy to be your boyfriend? I have been talking to someone for a couple months but as of the last two weeks we've been inseparable. We hangout almost every day and are I really like him! I want to ask him to be my boyfriend but I don't know if it's too soon or want to scare him off. When should I do it?

Sincerely,

WaitingGame

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Hey WaitingGame,

Firstly I am so happy for you girl! Congrats on finding a man, now it's time to trap him! You should definitely ask him to be your boyfriend if you're getting green flags. However, do it when you're ready. It's just like bottoming, do it when you're not ready and it's gonna be a $h%tty mess! So take your time and really get to know him, if you don't know his friends or family yet now is the time. Also, don't be nervous, if he's the one he will probably feel the same way. And if not, there's always Grindr! Good luck, queen.
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This is awkward,

So I apologize for how weird this question is gonna be in advance. However, I need to know how to tell my boyfriend he's not doing enough for me in the bedroom. I've made suggestions several times but he never listens and just does the same old thing every time! I am so bored it's beyond belief. I don't even want to fuck him anymore! My demands aren't even crazy, just be more dominant and maybe spit in my mouth, choke me, spank me, anything! What do I do to get him to finally listen?!

Sincerely,

BORED

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Ooooo girl,

There's nothing worse than being bored when you're supposed to be getting your back blown out. Take it from me, I have had my fair share of guys who put me to sleep and not in a sexy way. If you've been direct and verbal about your needs, he may not know how to implement them or feels scared to do so. Also, did you ask if he's into that? He may not be, girl! But the best thing is to flip the script and show him how you want it done. Be the dominant one and tell him what to do in the moment, get aggressive, and command him to do what you want! Best wishes, hope it gets better for you and your hole!

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Dear Chad,

I need your advice on how to get ready for a circuit party. I have never been to one but my friend invited me to go with him and I said yes. I don't know what to wear, how to prepare or what to expect. Is it just a big orgy? I know it's EDM music and he's pretty excited for the DJ. How do I get ready for this kind of event?

With Love,

CircuitBaby

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Oh to go back and relive my first circuit party, that would make my heart so happy. Firstly, it is NOT an orgy. There may be a dark room where you can get it on, but the majority of people are not going to be participating. Some people do play on the dance floor and that's okay, just know your surroundings and the vibe of the party, some are not cool with it. Secondly, you wear a jockstrap and possibly even a harness. Look up the flyer and see what the theme is, then dress accordingly. However it will get hot, and if you're dancing and taking party favors, you will want to take your clothes to the clothes check! So wear a cute jock underneath your bottoms. Also, make sure you stay hydrated, and party responsibly. Have fun baby, and maybe I'll even see you there.

Got a question for me? Nothing is off-limits! Email me: [email protected]. Until next time!