Digging Deeper with Dillon Diaz: Tying the Naughty with Jake Waters

May 10, 2023
DILLON DIAZ

DIGGING DEEPER WITH DILLON DIAZ: TYING THE NAUGHTY

I am Dillon Diaz and this is Digging Deeper, my bi-monthly column where we will discuss everything porn.

On April 29th, 2023, at around 6:15 PM I, Dillion Diaz married the love of my life, Jake Waters. It was an outdoor ceremony with an indoor reception in Las Vegas surrounded by family, friends, and love.

In the days leading up to the wedding, we were both really stressed and overwhelmed. Planning a wedding wasn't necessarily diﬃcult for us but all of the last-minute preparations that needed to be taken care of, coupled with the fact that our home was full of family and we had no time to ourselves to think, created a pressure cooker eﬀect. There were moments when we were snappy with each other and even avoided one another a little bit. That's not the kind of couple that we are so it made me really nervous. There were moments when I felt very alone and wondered if it was worth it. The wedding that is, not the marriage.

I managed to get my future husband alone for a few minutes behind the closed door of our bedroom, while my brother was just on the other side ironing our shirts in the hallway. (He was surprisingly very good at pressing out shirts so we asked him kindly to do ours too. I'm not sure if that is an oﬃcial best man responsibility but he went above and beyond more than once for our wedding.) And I asked him plainly, do you still want to do this, and his answer was yes, without a doubt. This was a huge relief to me because I didn't have a doubt either. I just needed his reassurance that he was still fully invested in us and in this wedding.

It was just the reassurance that I need to get through the last few hours before our wedding, especially since he wanted to go the traditional route and spend the night before apart. We had an unoﬃcial bachelor party at a local gay bar with diﬀerent friends coming and going while we just drank beer and ate pizza and wings. Then at around midnight, he went to his hotel room and I went back to our home. I fell asleep the moment my head hit the pillow but I did have to get up early to finish writing my vows and pack everything that I would need for the wedding and for the rest of the weekend we would spend at the hotel…ALONE!

I woke up on Saturday, April 29th, feeling well-rested and ready to conquer the day. It started with a “getting up” photoshoot. I'm not sure if other couples take photos like these but we are not other couples. There will be ass in our wedding album. No full frontal but possibly a hint of it. After the photoshoot, I went straight to the venue to supervise all the vendors and the decorating that needed to be done. There were a couple of small hiccups along the way but they were easily resolved and we were able to move forward without delay.

Now it's time for me to go to my dressing room and wait. In the early days of planning our wedding, I had wanted that time alone in dim light and silence but it was anything but silent in my room. The first people to arrive were my oldest friends Christine and Joe, who I met when we were growing up. They hadn't seen each other in over 20 years and it was nice to be all together again. Little by little more family and friends showed up and I had a full house of people helping me get dressed and clinking glasses of champagne. Although I wanted solitude and silence, this gathering of friends and family is what I needed.

Our wedding was scheduled to start at 6 PM but these things never start on time. At about 6:15 PM when our planner knocked on my door and said, “It’s time,” I froze. The tears welled up in my eyes and I was suddenly that kid horrified to go on stage during the Halloween play all over again. I looked at my friend Christine and mouthed the words don't go. Before I could leave I had to pee, and when I came out of the bathroom Christine had gone to take her seat. So now it was just me, my mom, and my little brother who was the greatest best man I could have ever asked for.

Our wedding planner lead us out of the building and then back in the other side so that none of our guests would see me. We are now in a position to begin. I see our photographer. I see our videographer. I see all of our guests and the performer in me takes hold. I'm not about to go out there and look a mess in front of all these people. In the days leading up to the wedding, I cried a lot. So much so that people were concerned that I would have a really hard time getting through the ceremony. But on the day of, I relied on my experience as a performer and I gave the best, most sincerest show that I could give.

My brother would go first as my best man, then my mother walked me down the aisle and I lead her to her seat. Next would be Jake’s brother, followed by Jake and his mom. I could see Jake's brother Larry already tearing up. I smiled at him and bowed my head once. When I turned my attention back to the aisle and I saw my fiancé coming straight for me, the tears dropped again but I was able to pull myself back together.

I'm usually a man of few words but not on this day. I had six pages worth of dialogue that I wanted to share with everyone and I did just that. Then it was Jake's turn and, having gotten through my vows, I allowed myself the space to cry. When he addressed my mom and brother directly and told them he would never hurt me, I let out a lip-quivering sob.

We did It, we got through the hard part, and then it was time to celebrate, and celebrate we did. We came in dancing to "Finesse" by Bruno Mars and it felt like we danced all night long. Our brothers gave speeches, (my brother actually came out in his speech and introduced his partner to all of our guests!). Our mothers gave speeches. Some of our friends and family gave speeches and to answer my question from earlier, YES, it was worth it. This is a moment neither of us will ever forget. All of our friends and family together…new friends, old friends, work friends, and family all together having a great time, it was beautiful.

If I could change anything about our wedding, I would make our centerpieces bigger, our microphones louder, and the hours longer but there isn't anything else that I would want any diﬀerent than what it was. It was our wedding day; the day that we had been planning for as long as we've been dating, and beyond that in our fantasies before we met each other, and it was perfect.

To all who came, to all who sent gifts, and to all who sent good wishes - Thank you! From the bottom of our very full hearts, thank you!