Between The Cheeks: (Vol 1, No 9) A Summer Whore Out

I am Ryan Carter. I’m an adult performer (it's ok, you can say porn star) and licensed mental health professional, which is a unique combination of professions that gives me quite a bit of insight about why I do what I do, especially when it comes to sex. I tell you this to engender faith in my writing and relationship guidance. I am also an ethical slut, which means not only do I get paid to be a pig, I also have with a code of ethics that keeps me from creating harm—both to myself and to others. With porn star status, I have been lucky enough to have had great access to some of the most sexual men, which has lead to many mind-blowing hook-ups. Luckily my husband and fellow performer, Digger, is also a sex pig and loves chasing dick and ass just as much as I do.

Digger (L) and Ryan Carter(R) being goofy in AZ

We agreed on our third date that we wanted to continue being our authentic selves and we also wanted a relationship based on trust. But you can’t have trust without honesty.

The Importance of Honesty

Ryan Carter on set for Fetish Force (Falcon) in Palm Springs.

Honesty is a core principle of all functional relationships. My first marriage was based on safety and security, not so much honesty. We didn't talk about much of substance between us. We had a sort of don't ask, don't tell understanding, which I hated, but it worked for us—for as while. But as the relationship chugged along, the strain from silence was corrosive. We ended up calling it a day after 13 years together and amicably went our separate ways and filed for divorce. It took three more years to untangle our assets and finalize the divorce. I harbor no ill feelings towards my ex, but that experience taught me the critical importance of openness and honesty...which brings me to Digger. He and I met at a Christmas party and we immediately clicked. We talked, as I just wrote above, on our third date about what we wanted and being open and honest. That talk was pivotal for me. I had never told someone I was dating what a pig I am and want to be—I was too afraid of judgment and rejection—which are powerful psychological motivators. But I tossed all that programmed shit aside and decided to be brave and tell Digger what I wanted: an open relationship, including anonymous sex, 3-ways, 4-ways, gang bangs, groups, whatever. For me, everything was on the menu. What's incredible, is that Digger and I have done all these things—both together and apart—many, many times. All this and our porn careers grew from those seeds of honesty. A choice for which I have eternal gratitude!

Big dicked porn star Jack Dixon tops Ryan Carter (R) for Nasty Daddy in "Cock Gagged"

Whoring Out

As part of my sexual growth, I gave over to whoring myself out. This is when you take dick and cum from just about anyone. The goal is load count rather than connection, so my parameters for who I hook up with widen considerably.

Ryan Carter ass up and showing what his hookups see when they walk in

I do not hook up with partiers or if the guy is on drugs. I'm sober and I really don't like sex with guys that are high...they're almost always terrible at sex. Sound judgy? Probably yeah, but these whore outs are my party and I can be discerning with who I invite. As I said, load count is the goal. Being in a super slutty, and just craving cock is often the origin of these activities.

Ryan Carter (L) bottoming for stud Dolf Deitrich (R) for Bareback That Hole

I whored out this past week and here's what I did... I told Digger of my plans, so he would be in the loop. I showered and cleaned out to get ready to bottom. I hopped on the hookup apps (Grindr, Scruff, Sniffies) and I posted an ad that I'm taking dick on one another site (BBRT ). I also texted a few regulars/fuckbuds. The first guy to come over was an older guy who I'd never met, who wanted a totally anonymous scene...meaning no words, no face pic exchanges and he wanted me waiting '"ass up" so he could come in, fuck me, shoot in my ass and split. I gave him the address and instructions for finding me. I grabbed lube and my bandana blindfold and waited naked in my living room, continuing to hunt while I waited. The guy arrived at the time he said and I buzzed him in. I jumped onto my sofa, naked and ass up, then pulled my blindfold down as the door opened. I heard him get behind me. My heart started to pound  as he put his hands on my ass. "Oh yeah, boy, you ready for cock?" he muttered as he unzipped his pants, which I think were jeans. I felt his warm and already hard dick hit my ass crack and slide against my hole. "I'm ready," I replied, but his bare dick was already pushing into my hole. I felt him slide all the way in and I inhaled deeply. It felt great. After pumping me for several thrusts, he asked me "you ready for some cum?" "Yes, please unload in me." I could tell he was close because his dick got very hard and he slowed his thrusts. He didn't make much noise but I could feel something warm in my hole, which was his load. He pulled out, zipped up and walked out. I have no idea who that guy was and that's kind of the point.

As soon as the door closed, I got a text from a hot fuck bud of mine. I met him four years ago at a sex party with Digger and we've always had great chemistry. He arrives in 15 mins after I text him to come right in and find me in the back bedroom. I hear the front door open and close, so I get on my knees ready to blow him.He drop his shorts and his dick flops out in my face. He gets hard  in my mouth as I suck him off. I love the feeling of a swelling dick in my mouth. Total turn on. He knows I'm into water sports, so he tells me, "get ready to swallow." he releases a warm stream into my mouth and down my throat, then tells me to get on the bed and show him my hole. Of course, I comply. Immediately, his face is buried between my cheeks and he's enthusiastically rimming and tongue fucking my hole. He stands up and pushes the head of his hard dick against my taint. His cock finds my hole and he slowly slides completely in—which I absolutely love. He buries his dick in me with a long slow groan. I know this boy is loving it, and so am I. Pleasing a top is a submissive bottom cum dump's goal...along with loads. He pushes me face down into the bed without pulling out. So now he's on top of my back, behind me, still inside my hole, pumping my ass from on top of me. You can always tell when a top is about to bust his nut. This guy thrusts deeper and I can feel his dick pulsate. I know he's breeding me. He stays inside me until he's done shooting and pulls out as cum drops onto my ass. I flip around and swallow his cock—a lot of tops love when a bottom does ATM (ass-to-mouth). A few more ropes of cum release into my mouth. I'm a happy bottom now.

Throughout the next two hours, I end up with 7 guys coming over to bust their nut in my hole. Feeling used and satisfied, I pull down my ads and log off the apps. I get in the shower to rinse off because I don't care much to be covered in slippery lube and dry cum all afternoon. But I leave the loads in my ass. Those are mine. I get out of the shower and I call Digger to share my adventure with him.

Safety

One thing I haven't talked about is safety. Because of the anonymous nature of what I'm doing, these experiences can be inherently dangerous. I screen grab every profile of guys coming over (before they arrive) and text it to myself and/or Digger. I also am not using drugs myself so I have a clear head and can reasonably respond to red flags—which I always pay attention to. Do not ignore your intuition. If something feels off, pull the plug and abort the hookup. Better to regret losing the load than risk being hurt or robbed. I also don't keep anything valuable in sight. We also have HD security cameras around the property in case something does go sideways, I have footage to hand over to law enforcement. The most valuable tool, though, is prevention. I don't let anyone over/in if something feels off or sketchy. I have thrown people out for arriving high. I also share all the mishaps with Digger, too. But those are stories for another post.

Digger And Me

Ryan Carter and Digger, aka the porn couple "RCandDigger"

I love that I can be so open with Digger, to bring him into my world of sexual adventures. I've never had this in a relationship before and it means the world to me. This is the open and honest connection I have always wanted. The only reason we have it is because we are both willing to be vulnerable with our deepest sexual desires. It's not easy to do, but the payoff is having the life I really want and that I thrive in.

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