Gangbang Form & Etiquette: The Basics of Hosting a Sex Party

Good group sex leaves your muscles sore. It’s a workout. It doesn’t have to be an assembly line of lackluster experiences (unless the desire is to remove the human element with anonymity). The fireworks should be there for everyone. It’s a celebration of human sexual ecstasy and rare for most people. Since I’m often asked for advice on how to sexually charge your lifestyle, I’m going to start with my first rule of thumb. Have genuine respect for your partner(s). Insincerity is hard to hide when you’re entangled in limbs and naked body parts.

 

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Beyond the general niceties of having a guest over, I’m going to give you some pro tips on how to avoid rookie mistakes when you’re hosting sex parties (both big and small).

The Basics

If you aren’t too picky, group sex is not hard to arrange at all. If you really want group sex, you can find it. It’s your own limitations that hold you back from these experiences. Take those limitations seriously before you proceed.

Similarly, don’t force group sex with people who are ill-equipped to handle the emotions that accompany sharing a liberated expression sexuality. If your partner is having trepidation over inviting a new partner into the mix, listen to them.

If there are any emotional accommodations that need to be met, it’s best to communicate that to your partner(s) early on so that they can be aware of what sort of dynamic will be at play once everyone starts fucking and eating ass. Transparency is the key to great sex. 

As somebody who has had countless group experiences, I’m always prepared to ask myself the tough questions. I examine my place in the mix, consider my emotions, and ask myself what accommodations I’d need met in order to take part in the experience. Example: Am I ok with watching my partner experience somebody else for the first time with wide-eyed excitement? Do I need to be the bottom for multiple cocks and how do I expect to be treated? Do I handle unexpected emotions well?

You know, basic house guest etiquette. 

Another question that I end up asking myself often is: What is the demand of my sexual performance and am I willing to exert myself that much to satisfy my guests?

As the Active participant in an Active/Passive dynamic, the responsibility of the Top is to remain useful for as long as possible.

If you’ve got the only penis in the room and people want hard cock, you’ve got to either work on your stamina or get comfortable handling a magic wand or some giant vibrating machinery for assholes. It’s just polite to lend a hand with toys during your refractory periods. If you cum before you believe everyone is satisfied, make it clear that you are willing to contribute to an earth-crushing orgasm for one of the other participants. Try to stay involved.

If you need a break, offer to go get water for other people while they continue their journey toward climax. Let’s all cum together. We all want to walk away from this experience saying: “That was great sex!”

Setting the Table for a Sex Party

It is important to be considerate of your guests' comfort. Group sex, if done correctly, should be a total workout, but that doesn’t mean people need to be contorting and propping themselves up in wacky positions. Make sure you have surfaces for everyone to fuck on. If you’re using the floor, simply litter the fuckroom with an assortment of pillows.

Quality group sex is a workout. People get hungry. Most group sex events that I’ve taken part in offered hors d’oeurvres: pinwheels wraps, berries and champagne, cheese, crackers, grapes, titty cakes, penis pastries, and lollipops (because people seem to love putting candy inside of each other). Unfortunately, most common finger foods make you bloat and upsets your stomach if you gobble it down in the middle of a marathon fuck fest. Just be cognizant of dietary concerns. I’m not sure why people haven’t sorted that out yet. Gangbang food has got to go down smooth. I’ve witnessed too many accidents. Please don’t shit on me. Peace & Love, Peace & Love!

Offer napkins for BOTH ends. Have towels and wet wipes on hand. Group sex feels unusual enough. Keeping wet wipes, towels, and lube openly available cuts down the opportunities for uncomfortable interactions.

Provide water bottles for your guests. It’s just a nice thing to have available. I always thought it was sexy when I’d have a one-night stand that offered me a brand-new toothbrush to use. 

Most normal people aren’t prepared for a sleepover when they go out to a club and go home with someone. Small, considerate gestures of accommodation really make a difference when it comes to sexual experiences. People want to feel clean while they’re sucking on each other’s assholes. They also don’t want to share drinking cups for some reason after they spent the last hour sucking a stranger’s cum out of some other stranger’s asshole. Glassware may also shatter in the throes of passion, so stick with plastic. It’s the right thing to do.

Organize your Toys & Lube.

Keep Wet Wipes and condoms beside your sex toys so people can wipe them down when they’re finished. 

Make sure the lube and the massage oil are in completely different places.

I was once involved in a FFFM four-way in which one of the participants grabbed mint muscle-relaxing massage oil in place of lube and coated my condom in it. Each girl took their turn riding me and hopped off. My balls felt like they were freezing, but that isn’t usual when you’re close to cumming. Later, we all mentioned that our genitals felt chilly. We had to take individual showers to process the eventual irritation as the icy/hot muscle relaxing effects began to heat up. We laugh about it today. It was not funny at the time.

EDDIE DANGER’S GANGBANG FORM & ETTIQUITE continues in the next edition of DANGER ZONE: The Hole Truth with Eddie Danger discussing GROUP SEX 

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