Between The Cheeks: (Vol 1, No 7) DenLA & Sex Parties

I'm Ryan Carter and welcome to  “Between The Cheeks,” where I share explicitly about my on-camera and off-camera sexcapades, as well as give sex and relationship guidance when it relates to the topic at hand.

Ryan Carter, photographed by Anthony Duran for Nasty Daddy in Palm Springs, CA

I'm a porn star, in an open marriage, an ethical slut, and a mental health professional, with a specialization in sex, relationships, trauma and addiction. This unique combination of experiences, talents, and attributes helps me to fully embrace my authentic sexual self and step into sexual experiences either by myself or with my husband, Digger, or with one or more of our pups (no, not actual dogs, but men we've collared and brought into our chosen family). This includes hookups, 3-ways, 4-ways, groups, whore outs, gang bangs, performing in porn and playing at sex parties.

Ryan Carter [R] and husband Digger [L] in leather gear in San Francisco., CA.

Everything I write about in this column is true and actually happened. I am not making up stuff to write about.

DenLA

I've attended many sex parties. One of the best ticketed all-men sex parties in Los Angeles is Damon Holzum's DenLA, in which Digger and I regularly attend. DenLA is billed as a dance and play party, but it's really more of a sex party. Our pup, Clipper (aka Jason Angel), bartends there along with one of my favorite friends, Aaron Adams, so we're always well taken care of at DenLA. Because so many guys from the gay, sex-positive community attend this event, I typically know half the guys there in one way or another. I'm also not bashful about going by myself if Digger or someone else isn't available to join me.

The last time I went (last month), I brought our collared pup, Jax Thirio, with me. Digger was supposed to come with us but he wasn't feeling well, so he sat this one out. Before Jax and I arrive, I park the car and give myself a shot of Trimix in the front seat so I'm ready to top if I want to. We check in at the door and strip out of our sweatpants and hoodies for the clothes check. I'm wearing a black leather harness, black jock strap and Nasty Pig's black knee high fuck me socks with black athletic shoes. Jax is wearing a Timoteo / CellBock13 hot pink and black harness with attachable jock strap. CellBlock13 apparel and gear look fantastic on Jax. He's got pink & white knee socks on with his pink iridescent Nikes...which kinda look like he boosted them from My Little Pony's pretty little hooves.

He's got a crazy hot body and he looks fantastic, so he's turning heads as soon as we arrive, which is par for the course with him. We walk into the space to say hi to Damon, Aaron & Clipper and we quickly make our way to one of the play rooms. People are still arriving, so the space is not full yet. In the first room we enter, there's a long, padded, waist-high fuck bench that can accommodate many bottoms side by side. I tell Jax to bend over and present his ass to the room. I slide my hard daddy dick into his smooth nearly perfectly shaped muscle hole. Almost immediately, several guys get closer to us. This is my cue to pull out and let the men have him. I announce that Jax will take any cock, which prompts an older guy to move up behind him and slid his dick into him. At the same time, this super cute black twink tells me he wants my dick. I bend the sexy fucker over right next to Jax and slide into him. I like watching Jax get used by a group of men while I'm dicking some random bottom boy. As I'm pumping him, I can feel an orgasm nearing, so I pull out and gently pat the bottom boy on his ass, which is sex party speak for, "I'm done—thank you." I tell Jax not to move, there are more guys waiting to fuck him. "Yes, Daddy," he obediently replies.

Beautiful pup and porn star Jax Thirio.

Ryan Carter [L}, Jack Vidra [C], and Digger [R] playing in a basemetutliity room

I venture out for one of the busier play rooms, the one with the massive fuck bench and slings around the perimeter. Sure enough there's a side-to-side line up of sexy bottoms on the fuck bench, waiting ass up for anyone to fuck. I find a boy who's not being fucked (at that moment) and pull my hard dick out of my jockstrap and flop it onto his ass cheeks. The boy's ass pops up and out. Clearly this boy wants dick. I position my head against his hole, which is already wet from some other guy's load. My cock slides in and the boy groans, which turns me on even more! I fuck the boy's ass in a way that feels good to me; I'm just using his hole until I bust my nut, which is about to happen. I ask the boy if he wants my load pumped into hiss ass. He starts begging for it, which everyone in earshot can hear, so a small crowd starts to form around us. I could feel the swell inside me and I pump harder as I crossed the threshold and pumped hard into the boy. My grunts clearly got attention in the room and some random top got behind me and slid into my ass, while I was still inside this boy I just bred. The anonymous top thrust several times and grabbed onto my harness as he shot his swarm and wet load into my ass, which felt great, if not a little bit physically awkward 'cause of the body angles. I didn't mind though.

Jay Austin, Ryan Carter, Jack Mackenroth, Digger [L-R]. We love making gang fuck vids. This was the second movie Digger and RC  made together.  For this vid to be nominated and win Best Sex Scene, we both feel good and that we're on the right track. This one,"4Way SlingFuck" was nominated and WON the Cyberbercosket Award for Best Group scene.

I made my way out of that room and towards the bar to get a couple bottled waters . I made my way back to Jax, who was still in place, as he was told, with a swarm of hard men surrounding hiss ass and taking turns on him. He had the biggest grin on his face which just screamed, "I'm a happy pup!"

There were several parades of rock hard erections marching their way through the door frames like the dancing brooms of Fantasia. No doubt they could smell cum-soaked ass. We stayed in that room most of the night so we could continue to fuck and get fucked  . When you find a good spot at a sex party, it's usually a good idea to stay put. I took a few breaks to get some water and to see if I could pull Clipper away from the bar to fuck him in main room. Jax and I left around 2AM, both of us sweaty, cum-soaked, tired, and fucked out. Jax had about 20 loads in him—but honestly, who the fuck knows, he lost count after three. I had 2 loads in me, but I had cum 5 times during the night fucking all the hot bottoms who were presenting their sweet asses to me. I left satisfied.

Digger [L] and Ryan Carter [R] hangin' out their home in West Hollywood, CA. This pic was taken o promote Ray Dalton's BigD leather gauntlets

I couldn't wait to get home to tell Digger about the adventure, but he was out cold when Jax and I finally walked through the door around 2:30AM. So the regaling had to wait until daylight, when the three of us went to breakfast at Joey's Cafe in West Hollywood. We shared every sordid detail with Digger and he happily listened and shared in celebrating our triumphant night.

One of the most important pieces of a successful relationship is honesty. It helps a lot if you and your partner have compersion, which is best defined as "our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It is the sympathetic joy we feel for somebody else, even when their positive experience does not involve or benefit us directly. Thus, compersion can be thought of as the opposite of jealousy and possessiveness." Read more about it here. At it's core, compersion is the celebration of others' joy. Digger and I learned early in our relationship that we both love seeing the other be happy; we don't need to be responsible for the happiness, as long as the other is experiencing happiness and joy. This means that sharing adventures is not a threat, it's an enhancement.

Want to read about my evolution as a mental health professional and emerging porn star, click these links to read the interviews...

LINKS:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/202004/sex-addiction-therapist-porn-star
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/202005/my-therapist-the-porn-star

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