Pornstar Lesson Du Jour: You Never Get Over Being A Fat Kid

Porn is full of former fat kids looking to gain the acceptance that they never got on the playground. Even though they’re hot now, body image issues still come up. Just ask RJ Danvers.

After our Furry Ferret of Love posted some delish new pics from Raging Stallion’s upcoming “Rear Deliveries” on his blog, Queer Me Now fired off a glib remark about how he “needs to eat more.” RJ, who we know wasn’t nearly as svelte in high school, answered back that around the time the pictures were taken, he was going through some stuff in his personal life and wasn’t eating or sleeping right and lost some weight.

That is a perfectly acceptible answer, but, know what, he doesn’t have anything to justify! Look at the evidence, he doesn’t look nearly as skinny as half of the ultra-thin twinks out there in porndom. There are no visible ribs or sunken cheeks. RJ’s crime is that he’s a hairy, toned, butch bottom who doesn’t fit into the industry’s easy categories. In porn, we either want the boys to be effiminate, hairless waifs or macho, hairy, muscle men. Just because RJ isn’t carrying as much weight as his Raging Stallions stablemates doesn’t mean he’s not as desirable or has some sort of eating disorder.

There seems to be a lot about recovering fat kids today. Steve Cruz posted an interview with bodybuilder Vince Ferelli, one of the stars of the upcoming “Red Light,” on his blog. Ferelli talks about how growing up “husky” still effects him today and how it lead him into the weight room. For people like Vince and RJ negative comments about their bodies—even that they’re too skinny—dredge up all those years of schoolyard taunting.

So, boys, next time you’re in New York, stop by our place for a little bit of comfort. We’ll love your bodies any way you want us to.

· Talk (rjdanversxxx.blogspot.com)
· Model Spotlight: Vince Ferelli (stevecruzxxx.blogspot.com)

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  • Anonymous

    Truly, it’s a dark day in porndom when people go around judging adult performers by their looks.

    And that, ladies and gents, is how one fires off a glib remark.

  • WalterPater

    As a fellow bisexual former fatty, I know exactly where Vince is coming from on the body issues front. I still have a hard time thinking of myself as physically attractive, regardless of what my lovers tell me. Vince and R.J. seem to be dealing pretty well with their issues these days, so I guess that’s something we can all aspire to!

  • Anonymous

    Thanks guys . . . . I’m really glad you decided to post about this :-) To be honest, I’m actually kind of upset that my response to Queer Porn Nation’s post has been misconstrued across the net as an “apology” for my weight loss, or an admission that I have some kind of problem. It wasn’t ever meant to be either. It was meant to be a means for me to dispel any rumors or gossip I assumed the post would create. I know I don’t need to justify my weight loss and I’m glad you pointed that out. I was just really afraid that after people started talking about it that I would end up being called a drug addict or assume I was HIV+ (which by the way is false . . . I posted my negative results on my blog back in September).

    You guys are dead on with a lot of things in this post and you say a lot of things I wish I would have said in my response. A lot of my weight loss was because of stress, but like I said, more was going on and I’m sure part of it had to do with issues stemming from being a former fat kid.

    I’m also really glad you guys mentioned how in porn we want guys to be one way or the other . . . either skinny twink or muscle hunk. I read a lot of what people say and, as much as I want to say I have a think skin, some of the stuff I read really does get to me. In particular, hearing that I didn’t fit in with RSS anymore stung quite a bit. I really wish people would stop and ask themselves when I ever really “fit the mold” of a Raging Stallion man. I think what initially brought me to Stallion was that I was something different, and that I didn’t look like the other guys. I was always thinner and I was never really all that muscle-y . . . it’s just that no one ever really complained about it before this.

    So yeah, I guess I just wanted to address some of the stuff I didn’t get a chance to say, and say thanks for still sticking by me( and Vince) through thick and thin (pun totally intended). You guys rock.

    When can I schedule that body love time in NYC? :-)

    xoxoxo

    RJ